Why don't people understand??

skibumsgirl · May 2011

When someone throws a shower or other event at a restaurant/banquet facility they charge per plate. So, asking to bring your kids/grandkid costs the hosts extra money even though they are a kid! And--these things aren't cheap! Not to mention there are probably other people that would bring their young kids had they have been invited so now you're putting the hosts in a spot--the other people are going to wonder why their kids weren't invited.

(in case my cousin stumbles upon this I am not referring to you--I invited your teenage daughter.) Big Smile

thanks for letting me vent!

Ritzy19 · May 2011

I agree. Unless you specifically address the invitation to the children as well, it should be common knowledge that kids are not invited. I would never dream of bringing Emma to something unless I knew for sure she was invited. I would NEVER NEVER NEVER call and ask someone if I COULD bring her either. That's just ten levels of tacky.

skibumsgirl · May 2011

Wow Ritzy--you are up late! I thought I was the only crazy super late night nestie. Thanks for sympathizing. I truly do love kids and if the event was at my house or a place that didn't count plates I wouldn't care if the kids came. It just really puts you in an awful spot as a host. I stress out enough planning these things--who needs extra stress??

lulubunny1 · May 2011

I'm so glad i'm not the only one that feels this way. That happened at my shower but it wasn't little kids it was older teenage sisters of a couple people I had invited AND they didn't call asking me if they could bring them, they just all showed up. Imagine the look on my face when they all walked in, I was pissed. Luckily I had a couple people who had to cancel last minute and the restaurant had added in extra chairs for me at no charge just to make the tables look even.

sassygirl4u27 · May 2011

I completely understand. I had someone do this formy wedding. I told them that we were not inviting children due to room. They said they understood and then ended up not coming at all! If you werent going to come because I told you you couldnt bring your kids, you should have told me.

whrldtravlr · May 2011

This happened at a communion party (held at a restaurant) that I went to last weekend. It's so rude. I guess folks who haven't had to host a party where RSVPs matter don't get it because they haven't been put in the awkward position themselves.

notthebride123 · May 2011

Totally agreed. I got this from one of my friends for my wedding. She emailed me to ask if her kids (toddlers at the time) were included. I had to say no because other people have kids and they were not invited. That is why I just put the names of "YOU and YOUR H" on the envelope. Duh! I guess some people just don't know common ettiquette stuff. So annoying!!! I mean, I'm not an ettiquette stickler by any means but when it's a catered event some things are common knowledge.

babya2010 · May 2011

I'm totally with Ritzy on this one. I would never call to ask if they could come if they weren't specifically invited. This reminds me of the baby shower MIL threw for me. Although it was at her house, one of her friends she'd invited had brought her daughter-in-law as well as her daughter and 3 of her daughters friends (they had had a sleepover the previous night). Granted there was plenty of food and luckily enough seats, I was still thinking, "You've got to be kidding me!" Tongue Tied

Some people are balls-y.

Ritzy19 · May 2011

babya2010:
I'm totally with Ritzy on this one. I would never call to ask if they could come if they weren't specifically invited. This reminds me of the baby shower MIL threw for me. Although it was at her house, one of her friends she'd invited had brought her daughter-in-law as well as her daughter and 3 of her daughters friends (they had had a sleepover the previous night). Granted there was plenty of food and luckily enough seats, I was still thinking, "You've got to be kidding me!" Some people are balls-y.

You've got to be kidding me. That's absurd. What did MIL say?! Did she think it was tacky too, or did she think it was just great? lol

lilnephie · May 2011

Where I grew up, kids were always included as part of the invite so now when you don't include them you seem like the biggest bia who hates kids. My SILs are guilty of this now. They get all upset when people don't invite their kids to events. They think it is rude. They thought I was rude when I made them get a sitter for their kids at my wedding. Well. I'm sorry. Not everyone wants to deal with your kids or feed them, get over and pay for a sitter.

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