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@ How long did...
It's a pretty self explanatory question, but, being that I bring up getting pregnant on a just about daily basis with my DH, I'm curious how long it took you ladies to get PG with your first child. My mom told me this weekend it took her 9 months with me and I was her first. If genetics are any forecaster, then I feel like my ideal timeline makes sense for us (try #1 this summer, if it doesn't work, then focus on it next summer and then just see what happens).[Poll]
Re: @ How long did...
I wanted to post to say I don't think it's a bad idea for you to start sooner then later...but that is just me.
I have been of BCP since May 2010 and have been actively trying since October 2010...I started making myself crazy and still am stressed and frustrated about it.
I am not trying to complain, I know some women try for years, but I was one of those people who just assumed I would be knocked up right away and it just doesn't happen that way!
ETA: To add to that I used OPKS for the first 6 months then started charting...but that was just stressing me out more so I stuck with the OPKs.
We had the exact same plan as you. We thought we would try for one summer (aiming for the ideal teacher April/May/June due date) , if that didn't work we were going to take a break, try again the next summer then continue on. We were fortunate and it happened our second month of trying. Hoping we get that lucky again this time.
Speaking of, I'd also love to hear from second time moms if the timing was similar to the first your second time around.
This is seriously my biggest fear. My DH firmly believes that next summer is when he'd want to start. But I don't want to feel like a failure when it doesn't happen. I've had an IUD since we got married 3.5 years ago and, although they say I'm ready to go right after, I'd rather give us the time to let it happen without being stressed about it. Like Sarah said, my ideal timeline is to get PG in July or August in order to have a Spring baby. But, if it doesn't work this summer, then we'd wait until next summer and then let it happen if/when it is supposed to. Knowing that it took my mom 9 months for me makes me nervous that it won't be magic like we all want it to be.
This was a lot like us. The first time, it was literally the week or so that we decided to roll the dice. Although that pregnancy didn't work out, we waited the two cycles my doctor recommended, tried again and were successful, woohooo! I really thought it was going to take a lot longer for us, but I was thrilled how quickly we were able to conceive on our second try.
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That is totally understandable. I never thought I would get stressed about it...but I couldn't help it! Tell your DH about me! Haha Really, My DH and I are both 27, in good health, been off preventative for a year, and I am extremely regular. They say it can take a healthy couple a year to conceive, though obviously it happens before then for many.
Good luck in whatever you(and your DH hehe) decide!!
And of course this is only my experience, everyone else I personally know has not had problems getting pregnant within a couple months!!
I come from a very fertile family, but was 34 when we started trying so I wasn't sure how that would effect my success. It happened for us the very first month of trying.
I also think the key for us was that we went into it with a totally open mind; if it worked - awesome, if it didn't work - we'd continue the free lifestyle we'd been living. I knew I couldn't stress about it, and do temping, etc. I knew it would make it too scientific for me, and take the fun out of it. I have always known my body well enough to know when I was ovulating - I "knew" about cervical mucus long before I had a clue what it was really all about, so I was able to use that to my advantage without any stress.
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Susie, I was in the same boat as you. My parents tried for about 5 years to conceive and then they adopted my older sister. Once they weren't stressed about trying anymore, I was born within 2 years of the adoption, and then my little bro surprised everyone 5 years later. I thought it would be really tough for us, but I went off the pill in July, and MJ was born April 10. BAM. We didn't wait the "recommended 2-3 months" to start trying off BC, we figured if it happened, it happened. I've since learned that one of the reasons for that recommendation is that hormones straighten themselves out and less chance for miscarriage that way, but we were lucky. I've also heard that it's a better shot right when you come off BC than if you wait, but who knows anyway. I had an IUD as well, and my doc recommended taking it out 6 months prior to attempting again (so if you do the math you teacher, you...)
Anyway... the last thing I wanted to say is that teachers have babies all year long. And while it might not be ideal to have a baby in, say October (wink, wink, wink), people do it and take their maternity leave and maybe a little extra. If you don't hit the ideal april/ may/ june, you still have an amazing baby!!
Oh, I'm ready to get PG now. LOL! So... even though it might not have anything to do with it, I might just use my mom as fuel for my kiddo fire and try to sell DH on it for this summer. He keeps says he's not ready, but are you really ever ready? We've taken care of our "to do" list for the house that we wanted to do before kiddos. And DH says he wants to travel. So we did Puerto Rico in April and then I'm taking him to Mexico in December as a surprise.
We were having the timing conversation in our house last week too! We had agreed to start trying fall '11/winter '12 but MH has developed some reservations. He kept saying "it won't be a good time" and I had to really push for the specifics of why he thought it wouldn't be a good time. Once we got through that, the conversation was much more productive and we're both taking steps to either think through things more or demonstrate something to each other. I'm not sure if we're postponing but I am really glad I pushed for specifics. I hope you guys come to a resolution (and if it's more favorable to you, all the better ;-) sometime soon! I know how much it stinks to wait! :-(
Interesting! That was me. My Dr told me I had 3 months to try and then would go back on the pill for 6 months and then try again b/c of my endo. I was beyond stressed, but it worked!
EDIT: Oh, and even know DH wanted kids, probably more then I did, he wanted to wait. He KNEW everything would be fine, ya ya. I was nervous when I told him I was pregnant since he was counting on an extra month or so. For trying purposes
and to get further along in the build. But, was beyond happy. All works out in the end 
Same here! I had talked DH into "seeing what happened by telling him how long it can take sometimes, etc. So, we both thought it would take longer. When it happened quickly I was nervous to tell DH. He was stunned at first, but obviously very happy. It does all work out!
The first month we tried we hit a home run. I had been off the pill for a few months and we were eager to spend some time "practicing" but it wasn't in the cards... one try and we were in.
We were both very surprised at that blaring positive- happy, but surprised it went so easily.
I voted 12 months + but that's not entirely true...
We started trying in Nov 2009, I got pregnant 2 weeks later, but miscarried at 10 weeks in Feb. We waited until July to start trying again, got pregnant in december again, miscarried in January, and immediately got pregnant again and am now due Oct 25... so all total we started trying over a year ago, but we only tried for 10 months, 3 of which I was pregnant at one time or another.
I guess it comes down to what would be worse... if you two get lucky month 1 or if it takes you a while and it could be much longer than next summer. (and I know what your answer is
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I'll post now that my secret is out. It took us 11 months to get pregnant. I tried so hard not to get frustrated with the whole process- I charted and knew that my cycles were really regular but for some reason it just wasn't working. I actually mentioned my concerns to my PCP at my annual exam. We were just about to schedule a fertility eval and bam BFP. I also took the month off charting- still did OPK's.