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FF Confession

I'm hoping this is flame free although I totally get it if you want to flame, I have my big girl undies on.

Back in 1999 my 17 year old cousin was killed in drunk driving accident (he was a passenger) and was the only one of the 5 in the car killed.  I have had a very hard time getting past the whole situation as we were close.

The driver of the car got jail time but not enough in my eyes - I still can't see the guy without wanting to punch him just for the simple fact that he is still alive and took one of my best friends from this world. 

Anyway the flameable part...A relative of the driver died this weekend and while I'm sad that he died 95% of me wished it had been the driver...I want him gone and in the worst way...

I know its horrible to wish that upon anyone but I just can't get past the fact that his actions (yes I know my cousin could have NOT gotten in the car) took part in killing my cousin. 

Okay that's it flame away if you must. 

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Re: FF Confession

  • I think it will always be hard not to wish it had happened to someone else and not someone you love, especially when it was their actions that ultimately caused someone else to pay the price.  No flames here.  Maybe we're still bargaining?
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  • I wouldn't flame you. You are feeling the way you feel because it is a totally normal, human reaction. We cannot help feeling this way sometimes, I think the difference is that you recognize you're wishing bad things and that that is not good. But that doesn't make you bad or abnormal.

    Forgiving someone for doing something like this is so hard, and might even be impossible. Don't beat yourself up for wishing the outcome had been different.

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  • imageNineTwentyOhEight:

    I wouldn't flame you. You are feeling the way you feel because it is a totally normal, human reaction. We cannot help feeling this way sometimes, I think the difference is that you recognize you're wishing bad things and that that is not good. But that doesn't make you bad or abnormal.

    Forgiving someone for doing something like this is so hard, and might even be impossible. Don't beat yourself up for wishing the outcome had been different.

    Claire literally took the words out of my mouth.

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  • imagePrettyInPearls23:
    imageNineTwentyOhEight:

    I wouldn't flame you. You are feeling the way you feel because it is a totally normal, human reaction. We cannot help feeling this way sometimes, I think the difference is that you recognize you're wishing bad things and that that is not good. But that doesn't make you bad or abnormal.

    Forgiving someone for doing something like this is so hard, and might even be impossible. Don't beat yourself up for wishing the outcome had been different.

    Claire literally took the words out of my mouth.

    Exactly.

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  • imageNineTwentyOhEight:

    I wouldn't flame you. You are feeling the way you feel because it is a totally normal, human reaction. We cannot help feeling this way sometimes, I think the difference is that you recognize you're wishing bad things and that that is not good. But that doesn't make you bad or abnormal.

    Forgiving someone for doing something like this is so hard, and might even be impossible. Don't beat yourself up for wishing the outcome had been different.

    This.

    But also, people make mistakes. Unfortunately, alot of people don't learn from them and continue to repeat their bad behaviors. But there are some people who learn from their mistakes and change their lives. I think my impression of this guy would depend on what path he took.

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