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small (long) vent about DH's bday

Today is his birthday. I asked him for weeks what he wanted and just last week he finally decided that he wanted to buy his buddy's guitar for $250. Umm yea, not gonna happen. I had already bought him some new work shirts, so I just gave him a card with the rest of the money that I would have spent and told him to use it on whatever he wanted.

My real vent comes from his family. We're going out for dinner tonight, but he invited his parents and sisters over for a BBQ last night. He invited them on Saturday, and his mom said something about how they "didn't know" when they could come because of prom. Okay....prom is Saturday night, not Sunday night. DH's little sister can get up in the afternoon and come to dinner. She never gets dressed up, and would more than likely not eat anything anyways because she's such a picky eater.

So MIL calls us on Sunday at like 1 to let us know that they could come but not until later because FIL wanted to get a haircut. DH told her that was fine, because we had plans until about 5 anyway. We ended up running a little late, and we called them at 5:30 that we'd be home at 6:30 so they should come around then. Ok, all is good.

Except they don't show up until 7:30. WTF. Luckily DH had started grilling late so the food just got done. Apparently they were late because they went to DQ to buy an ice cream cake, which DH specifically told them no cakes because he's trying to be supportive of my diet. I was totally cool with the cake, but whatever. So then MIL says they have to leave early because tomorrow is a work day. No duh. We managed to get through dinner, and then we're opening presents and MIL is talking about completely random things the entire time. I kept trying to bring the attention back to DH, since you know, it is his birthday and everything. Then they had cake and left. 

I'm ticked off because it felt like a huge inconvenience for them to be there the whole time. I just felt like, really? For your oldest son's birthday you can't act like you even want to be here? 

In my family, birthdays are always a big deal because that's your "one special day", you know? I'm starting to learn that not every family is like that. But my family with DH will certainly be!

Re: small (long) vent about DH's bday

  • What a bummer! My family is like yours and DH doesn't totally get it because his family isn't like that.
  • imageamethyst1220:
    What a bummer! My family is like yours and DH doesn't totally get it because his family isn't like that.

    Sounds like our family as well, and I think it's a good thing to start in "your" family.

  • That's so frustrating!  My family is like yours and we still do family dinners for our birthdays where we get to request whatever food we want made by my mom.  DH's family is lucky to get a card.

    This is one of those things they never tell you that you have to learn about when you get married, ha!  I hope he had a special day anyway and before long he'll be celebrating a very special day with his daughter and you can make your own traditions for birthday's!

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    imageamethyst1220:
    What a bummer! My family is like yours and DH doesn't totally get it because his family isn't like that.

    Sounds like our family as well, and I think it's a good thing to start in "your" family.

    My family is exactly like your family!  I hope your hubby was able to look past his parent's actions and have a good celebration.

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