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Do I have to send a gift?
I received a baby shower invite for a girl I went to college with. We were never close but had friends in the same circle so we hung out once in a while in groups. We also live in the same town now, so every few months we'll run into each other at the grocery store or Target and chat for like 5 minutes. She got married a little over a year ago and didn't invite me to her wedding (I didn't expect to be invited) but now randomly I get a baby invite from her. I haven't seen her since before Jason and I got married, nor have I even really talked to her other than the occasional facebook comment. My best friend's baby shower is the day after hers, and I'm helping out a bit with that, so I'll be busy so I don't think I'm going to attend the shower for this girl, but my question is, do I have to send a gift?
This sounds incredibly snarky but part of me is thinking that if I wasn't 'friends' enough with her to be invited to her wedding (it was a 300+ person wedding) then why does she thinks we're 'friends' enough for me to buy her a baby gift?
So I guess my question is, if you got invited to a baby shower for someone who you aren't close with and decided not to go, would you still send a gift anyway?
Re: Do I have to send a gift?
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If it had been me invited (and I didn't hate the girl) I would probably send a card with a very small present (like under $10).
This. Maybe send a childrens book and a card congratulating the momma.
I kind of LOVE baby showers, so I would totes go even if I didn't know her. lol But I'm weird.
Is maybe one of your old mutual friends giving the showe and just assumed you should be invited?
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I would say no, your not best friends with her or even talked to in about 7months. I wouldn't waste my money. I would tho send her a card saying congrats and that's it.
lol weirdo...jk
And no, a mutual friend isn't throwing it. The pregnant girl sent me a FB message a while ago asking for my address, so I am assuming she put the guest list together herself.
I don't think it is necessary, but a nice gesture. There are a lot of things out there in the $10 range that you could get. I think the book idea is great.
I also got these for my shower, and bought them for a friend who is also about to have a baby. They're only $5.99, and they're actually way cooler than just stacking cups. They have holes in the bottom to play with them in the bath...plus different shapes and colors that you can teach your kids with.
There are also a lot of toys that you could buy for that price, or less.
She may have added cheap stuff to her registry...I know I did.
But that's just me. I can see why you're bitter about it though
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