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1st time meeting parents' new boyfriend & girlfriend (post-divorce)

any words of wisdom? my parents split last August, divorced in December. my dad started dating someone before the divorce was finalized, and my mom met someone very shortly after. my sister and i hinted that we're ok with being introduced, maybe just for dinner. going home this weekend, so Friday night is mom's night. Saturday night is dad's night.

i hate this, and its so hard to get used to still :( but this weekend might end up being more difficult (emotionally) than i first imagined.

Re: 1st time meeting parents' new boyfriend & girlfriend (post-divorce)

  • I don't have much advice, but I would try to keep an open mind. The divorce is done and I'm not sure what your feelings are toward it, but the best you can do it hope for both of your parents to be happy.
  • All I can suggest is that in the moment of meeting these people, just remember that your parents divorce has nothing to do w/ them.  Be pleasant w/ them, make a geunine effort.

    But if you're upset after these dinners, if there is something about your parents behavior (for example) that upsets you- that's fine.  Talk to your parents about whatever is on your mind after the fact. 

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  • I agree to meet and give these people a chance, it was not them.

    Your parents are always your parents and I'm sure the divorce was hard on you and your sibling(s).

    I hope it's not in a public place - or even better if it is.  Then you know you will have limited time with them.

    My experience when I was 18, meeting both of my parents SF's - at my high school graduation - yeah, thanks for that! :)

    Good luck and just remember, you don't have to like these people but be polite for your parent's sake.  Then talk behind their back. hehehehe

  • MotzieMotzie member
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    While your parent's divorce may have been hard on you, remember that your parents are people first. Try not to think of them as your parents, but as their own person, trying to start over for themselves. I'm sure they'll be nervous too. Keep an open mind, and try to be cool for your parent's sake.
  • don't think about it to much, let things happen naturally, like jumping in a pool...just do it
  • are they talking marriage or more?  because if they are not, you can say: Mom-Dad, I'm not interested in meeting your dates until you are talking about perminate arrangements.

    Standing rule for divorced parents is to NOT introduce children to dating pool.

  • sprky79sprky79 member
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    imageGizmo280:

    are they talking marriage or more?  because if they are not, you can say: Mom-Dad, I'm not interested in meeting your dates until you are talking about perminate arrangements.

    Standing rule for divorced parents is to NOT introduce children to dating pool.

    They're not 12, FFS. 

    Seriously, people. If your faith in humanity is destroyed because your parents told you there was a Santa Claus and as it turns out there is no Santa Claus, you are an ignorant, hypersensitive cry baby with absolutely zero perspective. - UnderwaterRhymes
  • imagesprky79:
    imageGizmo280:

    are they talking marriage or more?  because if they are not, you can say: Mom-Dad, I'm not interested in meeting your dates until you are talking about perminate arrangements.

    Standing rule for divorced parents is to NOT introduce children to dating pool.

    They're not 12, FFS. 

    FFS it's still Mom and Dad and not together.  Not sure how old I'd want to be meeting my mom's flavor of the week....

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