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Why can't I make a decision?!
DH and I got invited to the wedding of a girl I work with. We're not super great friends or anything (we don't hang out on the weekends) but we're "work friends" and I even made her wedding invites for her. Her wedding is next month and I've been putting off RSVPing for a while because we weren't sure about moving to ATL and stuff. But now that we're not moving right now, I need to let her know if we're coming or not! I can't decide - DH said he's fine with whatever I decide so he's of no real help.
Here's the situation: it's in NH so we'd have to get a hotel room. Overall the whole thing shouldn't cost more then $200 for us to go to the wedding so that's not too bad and normally I'd say yes, let's do it without even thinking. BUT, I know that DH has planned a weekend away for my bday in 2 weeks....we're starting to look at apartments and will probably be moving in June or July depending on when we find something we like - so that's going to involve a bunch of $$ upfront...and we're also thinking about going on a cruise for our anniversary.
I know going to the wedding is probably the right thing to do....but I just can't decide if it would be the smart thing to do...you know?
What would you ladies do?
Re: Why can't I make a decision?!
oh goodness that is a tough call! I guess it depends on how much $200 would hurt you. If $200 is a good chunk of money for your budget I would probably pass on the wedding, send a nice gift and that be that. I'm sure your "work friend" would understand. Out of town weddings can be tough.
Totally off topic lol....what keeps you guys from moving to ATL? I know you had your hearts set on it!
If I were you, I would go to the wedding. Since she's invited you, she must consider you a friend, and she would probably be really happy to have you come and celebrate with her. If it's not going to completely blow your budget, I would definitely go.
I've gotten some really good deals on hotels at priceline, Have you tried bidding for a super cheap hotel?
I know and I can't really decide how much it would ding us. I mean, in the grand scheme of things, it's not THAT much, but if we're moving into a new place and have to pay fist, last and security up front....then ya, the $200 is going to be a lot. Ugh. Still so many unknowns!
We haven't been able to secure jobs and DH needed to start making commitments for camps over the summer and for football this fall. We had a small window and just weren't able to make it happen in enough time. We're still keeping the option open, just won't be as actively looking right now. We'll revisit it after the first of the year probably.
Thanks Mel - this is exactly what I needed to hear.
::off to look at the registry to send a gift instead::