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Am I a prude?
Is there an age when it becomes no longer appropriate for a parent to share nude photos of a child on the internet/social sites?
A college aquaintance (not a close friend at all) is a friend of mine on Facebook and has a newly four-year old daughter (birthday within the past month). She WAY overshares her kid on FB - photos, videos, posts, more photos, etc., but that is an issue all its own. What I am concerned with is that she continues to post photos and videos of this girl in various stages of dress/undress. When the girl was a baby I thought it was normal; one year old probably also still normal; two years old made me start thinking hmmm. At age three I really noticed it and now, with a shirtless photo posted just last week I was concerned.
I get that she is just wanting to capture "life as it happens" and spontaneous photos/videos mean you don't have time to set everything up to make it look perfect. This last image was of the girl eating a popsicle with the sticky stuff all over her arms and torso - it's probably funny to other parents (?) and was shared as "Look what she did now!" But I still have a problem with it and think it is inappropriate.
Am I a prude? Or is this strange?
Re: Am I a prude?
Hmmm. I don't necessarily think you're a prude, but I don't necessarily think that what she's doing is strange.
I wouldn't think anything of shirtless 4 year old - especially given the situation of the photo you posted. It may not be that wise of her to be posting it everywhere, but I don't think it's weird.
Yeah, I agree with this.
Agreed. I personally would never put pictures of that context on the internet. Too many weirdos out there.
I don't know if you remember, but I posted about something similar about a year ago. A FB friend of mine posted a picture (and made it her profile pic!) of her three kids lined, naked, facing away from her. So it was a picture of three kids' butts. The oldest was a four year old girl and I thought it was completely inappropriate to post pictures of a naked four year old girl on FB. I reported the photo on FB, and it was deleted shortly thereafter.
So, no, it's not just you. I think naked kid photos on FB (or anywhere on the internet) are a terrible idea, personally.
I still take bath time pictures of the girls, but those are for our photo album only. Because a) I don't want them out there and b) I know it makes people uncomfortable. I think between the ages of 2-3 is when I would stop posting naked kid shots. And at that age, it was mainly bath time pictures where they were sitting down and you could only sit the top of their chest to their head.
Hmmm..I better double check my blog and FB account to make sure I'm not being a lier.
I was at a family party last week and changed Allison out of her dress clothes to play clothes. I did it right in front of everyone and I thought to myself maybe she is at the age where I should go into another room. I don't don't care, but it might make other people uncomfortable.
I don't necessarily think there is anything wrong with that picture given the context.
But personally I haven't posted naked pics of K at all on FB. The most naked has been from the chest up. There is 1 bath picture, but the private area is covered by one of his bath books. Every bath picture I've taken has been with a wash cloth or something covering him. So I don't even "own" a picture (posted or not) of him completely naked. I think that is unnecessary.
Side Note- there have been pictures I've taken but not posted because I know that certain people *cough* Inlaws *cough* will just not get. We took a picture of him at 21 days and then 21 weeks of him holding a beer bottle. Obviously we gave him none, but I know they wouldn't get the joke.
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THIS 100%. Chymes, you are not a prude. I would feel exactly the same way. I recently posted a pic of J when he was naked but his privates were blurred out of the picture due to water being on the shower glass. I second thought it for a minute but still shared due to no privates showing. I would definitely NOT do that when he turns three or older.. Too many creepoids out there.
And I can't check to see if I'm being a liar because I have too many to look through ;-)
Yeah, my top concern is for the creepers out there, followed VERY closely by the thought "This child is going to HATE her mother later." I would never want naked pictures of myself out on the internet, regardless of my age. I think a lot of parents are way too enthusiastic to share EVERYTHING that they don't stop to think about repercussions.
I don't necessarily need validation for feeling this way, but I am glad that I'm not alone.
I"ll admit. This is something that I've not thought about. Maybe this is my subliminal revenge for the shitty diapers and sleepless nights
Not at all?
Uh oh, Tigers...
Here is the recipe link for the Guiness Cake. I deleted my post with the picture and the children post and it had the link in one of the children posts.
http://nookandpantry.blogspot.com/2009/02/guinness-chocolate-cupcake-with-baileys.html