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MIL Drama
I have an awesome and supportive MIL... But... since my dh is an only child, she tends to be overbearing and takes over a lot of things. Take this weekend. We are moving into our new apartment (which is no longer 10 minutes from their place WIN!!!) and while my mil & fil bought our refrigerator, now they want to cook dinner for everyone coming that day... Ok not to bad.... Heck, that makes my life easier... But then... she called to TELL ME AND MY DH HOW WE ARE GOING TO MOVE! I was like oh no... we have things set up the way we want them. When we unpack I told my husband that we are doing it... just us.. not us and them.... arg.... They are always trying to control the situation and my dh has stood up to them many of time before. Any advise on how to kindly tell them to chill out a little bit?
Re: MIL Drama
Exactly how did she tell you "how" to move? I take it that she plans on helping you unpack? If you actually plan to start unpacking that day (while she and others are there), a few suggestions.
1- have something for her to "do". if it's still really too early in the day for her to start dinner, have something in mind to task her with. Maybe she can unpack some boxes that you don't care how they are put away, or if you know the way she does it is actually good, let her handle it.
2 - You or DH (preferably DH) can also stop her and gently be like "Mom, I appreciate you want to help, but we JUST moved in. Asals and I need a little breathing room in order to figure out how we want to organize stuff that will work best for the two of us. "
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
YUCK - sounds just like my MIL. She TELLS us how to do things all the time. Definitely set your boundaries now b/c it will only get worse. As long as you and your husband are on the same page and he stands up to her, then you're in a good place.
My DH has a very difficult time standing up to his mom, but he's come a long way. We're in marriage counseling right now because of MIL - it's helped out a ton and we're learning how to communicate better with each other, he's learning how to communicate with his mom, and I'm learning how to let things go and determine when to make a big deal of something.
Good luck!