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Awkward Wedding Photos
(I'm trying desperately to breathe life back into the board...)
Do you have any "awkward" photos from your wedding? And I don't mean weird ones where you're about to sneeze or your DH's eyes are closed...I mean the kind that feature people you never talk to, couples who have broken up, etc.
A lot of ours are awkward, unfortunately. My DH & his Best Man haven't spoken since about eight months after the wedding (they'd always had a tempestuous friendship growing up, so it's not "unusual" for this to happen...it just surprised me because I'd never seen it). Many of our guests ended the relationships they were in, so I have lots of pictures of ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends of my friends.
It's hard for me because I'm working on my wedding scrapbook right now, and I'm trying to sort down the photos I'm going to use. Obv I'm putting ones with the Best Man in them, but I'm not sure what to do about the no-longer-couple-guests. Part of me feels like the photos are a snapshot of how our lives were then, so they should be included, but part of me feels like since I know the "outcome" now I should maybe eliminate any where it's clearly just the ex-couple.
Do you have any awkward wedding photos like these? If you were doing your album/scrapbook now, which would you include and which would you avoid?
Re: Awkward Wedding Photos
I would include any that didn't involve people I now despised. :-) Relationships change, but that doesn't mean the ex wasn't a part of your wedding celebration. I would only exclude people that bring up painful memories for you, your H, or anyone you think will look at the scrapbook with more than just a cursory glance.
Thinking back, I don't think we have any like that. We had very few singles at our wedding. Only sad thing is seeing the pics of my oldest niece, who hasn't spoken to my brother in over a year (her controlling BF has driven a wedge between them). But if I were to leave her out, my brother would be more hurt than if I left her in.
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It's weird to think about those photos being a snapshot in time. My brother and sister both brought dates to the wedding and now one couple's married and the other's engaged. I tried to include them in formal photos at the time, but insisted on taking a formal familt photo with and without them just in case. I'm glad both of them were at the wedding since we'll be in laws (hopefully) forever, but it could have been akward for the photos if it hadn't worked out.
I agree with Leigha. If there are painful memories, leave them out, otherwise put them in. I don't think we have any awkward photos either. Although my one friend did email me the week of the wedding to tell me her and her boyfriend broke up but she was still bringing him so it wouldn't look weird that she came alone.
I think I'm going to have to look for you girls on FB, because it is looking like our board is dying : (
SBS how did your Monday go? Update please!
I'm much more connected on FB because it's easier to get to from my cell phone. I'm all for making a J'09 private group for us to chat in. I love the groups feature on FB.
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mb- I would be all for the fb group as well
Just reading the title I was about to tell you all about my picture of the kid's meal. Yes, our photographer took a picture of a collection of plates with chicken strips and fries.
I am having a hard time with our scrapbook as well because of our IL situation. We have cut off all ties with MIL and we are barely on speaking terms with BIL. We also can't stand BIL's (now) wife who appears in a few shots. There is a lot of anger still there and while I realize they were a part of the day, I don't want to be upset every time I look at my scrapbook.
Probably my biggest awkward album photo -- the traditional family shot in front of the church altar with my sister's husband, now ex-husband. They were separated at the time, and a part of me wanted to shout 'STICK HIM ON THE END, SO I CAN CROP HIM LATER."
Also, my photog took a sweet shot of H's cousin and wife dancing. They were married about 10 months before us and divorced two months later.
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Leigha, would you do this for us? I'd love that and Lucky said she would too : )
Lucky-that is an odd picture of the kids meals
Done, but I can only add those I'm FB friends with. But anyone added can add anyone else. It will have to be sort of a chain reaction. If you don't get added in a couple days, let me know so I can info from you to add you as a friend.
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My photographer had a hard time getting pics of DH's mother for the album. She kept blinking in all the pics! I think he actually cropped her head from one photo onto another because of this. LOL
A friend who is no longer a friend appeared in a few really great pics that we wanted to put in the album. Some clever overlapping of photos there!
we've been lucky in that we still like all the people in the pics... and three of the couples are now engaged. The worst pic I have is of some of my friends signing the guest book. I guess they put it on a low table when they moved it into the reception, and the pic is an Excellent shot of my friend's butt as she bends over the book. She's quite voluptuous. Yeah.
For some reason we also have a lot of pics of one of the guests eating. Like, modeling his food - Here's Dan eating steak! Dan eating cake! Dan eating late-night nachos! very weird.
But no pics of my parents together. Lots of pics of my dad at the bar doing tequila shots with my friends, and my mom dancing with my brother, but none of them together. I mean, they're party animals, but surely at some point they were near each other? Probably my fault because when the photog asked if there was anything I wanted her to get before she left I told her DH's parents (who happened to be sitting nearby)