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Jealous Parent
Hey All,
I'm new to this board but I've got a small issue which I'm not sure how to handle at this point. . I come from a family which my parents have been together since I was born and never had any outstanding family issues, through my years of school my father had some medical issues which have created him to become short tempered to say the least. . As time has grown on my sibling and I have both left the house because we've gotten married and grown up in short terms. . In the past couple years my father has become almost jealous of any time I or my sibling spends at my parents house either refusing to speak to us or almost throwing a fit. . I've recently found out I am due with my first child which seems to have only made the issue worse, he throws fits to my mother when we go to the mall and do not include him, or just plain acts like we are leaving him out of information about whats going on in the pregnancy which I have clearly told him many times. . I guess I've reached the end of my rope in dealing with this and I'm not sure what to do. .
Re: Jealous Parent
Honestly, there are people you should cut out of your life even if it's tempory.
I wouldn't see talk to him until the grandkid is born. Once the DC is born you get to lay down the law. No yelling, no bad attitudes, no negativity in the home. If he breaks the rules, he doesn't see his grandkids...
How has this been handled all these years? Is he treated as if his behavior is totally out of his control or is he ever held accountable?
Physical issues can take their toll on people mentally. I've seen it happen w/ my MIL. it's sad. I don't discount your dad's change in personality.
But still - is it really out of his control or is he, in a sense, making a choice to be an a$$? I wonder all this because I wonder if he is actually confronted with "Well, dad, based on how you're acting, why do you think I'd want to spend more time with you?", if it might make some kind of impact on him.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
no, but anal-retentive does have a hyphen in your world. It's a board, not worth S/C.
Its really just gotten bad in the past couple of years as far as he "pouts" almost like a child. I'm not around much so I dont really notice how much its going on. But when ever I am at my parents sometimes hes really friendly others he'll completely ignore me or seem irritated that I am even there.
I really do believe that his medical issues are what has taken a huge toll on his personality, I never remember him behaving like this when I was younger,. However, I dont think its an excuse for the way he is treating my siblings, mother, and myself. In all honestly I believe he feels like we are the issue.
Anal retentive should only have a hyphen when it's used as a compound adjective, as in, anal-retentive biznatch.
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Unfortnuately, major personality changes are extremely common with strokes. I think the best thing that can be done is for you and your sibling to talk with your parents about making a dr's appointment and all of you going and talking with the dr's about his personality changes. There maybe medications that can help him, but the dr. will need to have all of the facts regarding your dad's changes.
Again, major personality changes are very common with strokes. Nice people, can become mean and vice versa. I'm so sorry, that you and your family are going through this. I cannot imagine what your mom is going through. Hugs.
"Don't marry a man unless you would be PROUD to have a son exactly like him." ~ Unknown
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I'm trying to think of scenarios in which anal-retentive wouldn't be a compound adjective, and failing miserably.
Maybe someone was having an anal-retentive day or had anal-retentive constipation. Those are both "what kind" questions which would make it an adverb, no?
No hyphen, the hyphen is only used when it is modifying something else:
She thinks Doglove is an anal-retentive b&(ch. I think Doglove should be proud of her ability to be anal retentive.