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Oh, MIL- I've missed your meddling ways...

Email that MIL sent to my mother regarding my upcoming shower:

"Dear J,

I have RSVP'ed the baby shower, as every other guest.
As the other Lola I would have really enjoyed and been honored to be a part of planning the shower for Sprinkles.
As that did not happen, what is it you would like me to bring to the shower.

Cheers"

Uhm, are you mothahumpin' kidding me?! First off, my mother offered to throw it, you did not. Secondly, I have involved you with all of the planning so far (your invitation list, asked you if you'd like to make food, talked to you about our plans, etc.) and you have participated. Third, WTF?! Invitations went out over a week ago and you've been sitting on this and not made a comment until now when you decided to go after MY MOM? Yeah, not OK. For effs sake, you and DH had an hour long conversation last night and you NEVER made mention of this.

I'm going to kick you in the clam next time I see you.

(end vent) 

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Re: Oh, MIL- I've missed your meddling ways...

  • That is just annoying and wrong.  I feel bad for your mom.  Did she even mention to your mom that she wanted to help out before now?  A swift kick in the clam is just what she deserves!
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  • Yeah, for effs sake is right. Kick her in her passive-aggressive clam. 
  • Oh Mol, I'm sorry you have to deal with this sh!t...Your MIL is a piece of work and should not mess with your momma! 
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    Yeah, for effs sake is right. Kick her in her passive-aggressive clam. 

     

    THIS THIS THIS!  Is it too late to uninvite her??

     

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  • imagekclouts:
    Did she even mention to your mom that she wanted to help out before now? 

    Nope! I have been talking to her since my mom offered to throw the shower a couple of months ago, and she has been kept completely in the loop and never expressed an interest in being a co-hostess or whatnot. She did something very similar right around the wedding just before our rehearsal, so I guess I shouldn't be surprised but man am I not impressed. 

    I've already warned Kyle that I am not happy, and we need to discuss this after work. One of those times I'm wishing I could have a big ol' bowl of cocktail! 

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  • imagemeganmarieCA:

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    Yeah, for effs sake is right. Kick her in her passive-aggressive clam. 

     

    THIS THIS THIS!  Is it too late to uninvite her??

     

    Haha, I wish- too bad she's already been so kind as to RSVP! 

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    The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware; joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. -Henry Miller
    http://cookthehumbletable.blogspot.com/
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    imagemeganmarieCA:

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    Yeah, for effs sake is right. Kick her in her passive-aggressive clam. 

     

    THIS THIS THIS!  Is it too late to uninvite her??

     

    Haha, I wish- too bad she's already been so kind as to RSVP! 

    Just like EVERY OTHER GUEST, lol. She sounds like a real treat :(  

  • Oh, she can be a real piece of work. 

    Honestly- Pick up the GD phone and CALL ME, your daughter-in-law who has been keeping you abreast of the planning and tell me (using your big girl words) that you're upset for not being more involved in the planning. Or, choose to throw your own shower if you really want- I'm all for it! There is no rule that the grandmothers are supposed to co-host a shower. As a matter of fact, according to traditional rules of etiquette, the shower should not be thrown by the grandmothers at all. GAH!

    (laces up large boots made for kickin') 

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    http://cookthehumbletable.blogspot.com/
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    imagemeganmarieCA:

    imageInterrobang:
    Yeah, for effs sake is right. Kick her in her passive-aggressive clam. 

     

    THIS THIS THIS!  Is it too late to uninvite her??

     

    Haha, I wish- too bad she's already been so kind as to RSVP! 

    Just like EVERY OTHER GUEST, lol. She sounds like a real treat :(  

    THIS! *sigh* I think my scenario is better now. My MIL planned and didn't let my mom help at all. That was ok , my mom was at the hospital every day of my 18 day stay while MIL was home planning :) lol

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    I'm going to kick you in the clam next time I see you.

    (end vent) 

     

    This literally made me LOL!

  • Oh and your MIL is a POS.
  • I love that you want to kick her in the clam, cause she deserves a well aimed kick. That is so snarky... Your poor Mom. Honestly, I just keep picturing your story about her with the pie all over her tanked. Your MIL is the ultimate Monster-in-Law, let the clam kicking commence!!!

    At least she RSVP'd? My MIL never RSVP'd, didn't offer to bring anything or even ask if she could help. 

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  • wow, oh my lord who does she think she is?  I can't even believe someone would put that in writing and actually send it.  yikes.  serenity now.
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  • Thanks for making me feel justified in my vent, I feel much better! 
     
    I talked to DH last night about it, and he was pretty upset w/ his mum, so he actually called my mother, apologized and recommended the best way of dealing with her. I'm glad I didn't fly off the handle and call her right away myself, I think that would have cause way more drama than needed. My mum is going to get in touch with her today and hopefully talk her down off the ledge- she's all diplomatic like that, and by handling it by herself, MIL won't get the chance to feel like she's being ganged up on, which should be a good thing. We shall see! 
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    The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware; joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. -Henry Miller
    http://cookthehumbletable.blogspot.com/
  • I think I must have the giggles today, because I keep repeating "kick her in the clam" to myself and laughing.

    I'm sorry your MIL sucks! KICK HER IN THE CLAM! teeheehee

     

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  • Ugh, she is a snarky MIL!  Good for Kyle for figuring out a solution and stepping in.  MIL may have issues but her son definitely gets it right.  :-)
  • Ugh, sorry you and your mother have to deal with this B.S.!
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  • I don't even know how to react to that.  Tell her the only thing she needs to bring with her is a new attitude.
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