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This made me mad yesterday
And maybe I am just over-reacting, but I am still kind of steamed about it. DS and I were taking a walk around the neighborhood after dinner. He saw three kids on bikes (ages 7-9 I would guess) and started running toward them. Then one kid says loudly, in a mocking tone "oh look, a ginger" as he rides by.
WTF? It may be because I fvcking hate that term with a bloody passion, but I seriously wished that kid would fall on his face and knock out a couple teeth. I think the part that makes me really upset is thinking of when Sean gets older and kids would not want to play with him because of his hair color, or something stupid. Luckily, now he is too little to even get it. It just made me realize that if my kid ever gets bullied, I am not going to react well to it and will probably end up going postal on the kids or their parents.
Re: This made me mad yesterday
Oh that would have broken my heart. John was watching boys of a similar age outside and waved to them (he waves to everything, cars, dogs, etc) and one of them said in a mocking tone as well "oh look a baaaaby." It broke my heart, you never want anyone to be mean to your kid.
It's weird though, how would a 7-9 year old know that term? I guess I don't understand b/c I ALWAYS wanted red hair growing up, like my grandmother had. I'm like you though I can see myself going BSC on some kids and parents in the future if anyone messes with my kids.
wait? what? Is "ginger" a slur?
I got teased for being a redhead as a kid.
people use it in a derogatory manner, yes. But I have also heard redheads describe themselves as gingers, so its kind of strange. Anyway, I hate hate hate the term. And FTR, I never got teased for having red hair as a kid, maybe that is why this is so foreign to me.
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There was also a recent Episode of Glee where Ms. Pillsbury referred to herself as a "ginger". They were doing a sort of Woe is me episode that they all had a t-shirt made with something they didnt like about themselves. Mr. Schue wanted hers to be about her OCD but instead she had it made to say Ginger.
I have a cousin that has "orange/red" hair and i dont think he was ever made fun of because of it but i can't be sure. My DH LOVES redheads! I always ask him why he is with me then cause my hair is dark blond to light brown! lol
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It's really sad because there is nothing you can do to protect your kid from being teased. I was teased for being overweight, my sister for having terrible teeth and glasses, and DH for being Asian. It's so sad.
Is "Ginger" less derogatory in the UK? I feel like I've read/heard it in British shows/books frequently.
I think it is a pretty common term over there, but I unsure of the context of how they use it.
I remember reading it in Harry Potter. That may have been the first time I heard the term.
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Wow, I must be really ot of it because I'v never heard of a red-head being called a "ginger" before. That really stinks though! That's one of biggest worries about my kids entering school, being bullied. Kid's can be so mean. I'm so sorry.
FWIW It looks like your son has absolutely beautiful hair!
The teasing kids about being redheaded is so weird to me, but it's been around for an awfully long time so we can't blame it all on South Park. Red hair used to be a mark of the devil. And am I the only one who's heard the term "red-headed step-child" used to describe somebody that gets the fuzzy end of the lollipop on a regular basis? As in, "Man, our office is really the red-headed step-child of the company. Why do we always get the crappy handmedown computers??"
My BIL is a red-head, calls himself a ginger, and my sister regularly talks about how much she hopes their daughter turns out to be a ginger-baby. (she's still bald. Her peach-fuzz might be red, but it's still too thin to really tell)
My mom actually refers to redheads (specifically pale, freckly redheads) as paste-eaters. But that's a family joke - and she doesn't actually mean it in a derogatory sense, and doesn't really use it outside family gatherings.
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I am sorry that this happened to Sean and I am glad that he isn't old enough to understand what happened yet.
I've been tortured by other kids for my red hair my entire life, including by my own sister and cousing who used to chant, "I'd rather be dead than have red on my head." I used to cry and cry.
As an adult my sister admitted that she was jealous because strangers used to stop our mom and tell her how pretty my hair was. Unfortunately this admission came WAY too late. My years of teen angst were far behind me at that point.
As for the term Ginger... I have 2 comments
1. my canadian sister in law uses the term all the time and it doesn't have a negative association it would vbe like calling someone a "blonde" or a "brunette" instead of yellow haired or brown haired.
2. This is exactly why kids shouldn't watch South Park. The whole point of the Ginger episode is about how it is wrong to judge people for things that are superficial. If you watched that episode and seriously came away from it with the idea that "gingers are bad" then you weren't paying attention.
Cartman is a racist, manipulative, bully, jerk. Its a characture to make a point. He is often the protagonist in the episodes that have to do with racism and intolerance. It's a recurring theme in the show and Cartman is always made to look like the fool.
I was mainly referring to HP lol. I've heard it in other British shows but I first read it in HP.
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I had a friend who used to say this- IN COLLEGE. And wouldn't you know it, her first born child, a boy, has red hair!