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and so it begins...

no more sex until the wedding day!
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Re: and so it begins...

  • When is your wedding?
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  • hahahaha! 2 weeks from today. its kinda sad. I wish we would have done this for a month.
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  • imagesulzkaila:
    hahahaha! 2 weeks from today. its kinda sad. I wish we would have done this for a month.

    Why?  I never understand why people do this if they've been having sex already. 

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  • Sex is not the reason you're getting married or you would have waited until that point to EVER have sex.  But you want to make sex the most important/most thought about thing on your wedding day.  Instead of "I can't wait to marry you cause I love you and can't wait to spend my life with you/ show my commitment to you, it becomes, "nope no sex yet, but we'll do it on the wedding night".

     I don't get it.

  • I had always wanted to abstain for a month or so prior to our wedding. Things got so crazy, it was the last thing I had energy to attempt to control, so we didn't abstain. And you know what? The sex we had on our wedding night was really wonderful, very caring, very special...all of the things I thought we could only obtain if we abstained. I was wrong. Thank god I didn't bother trying to control us abstaining!
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  • Would you mind explaining why you are abstaining? H and I considered this, but it only made it more enticing. We had the best *sleepy* sex on our wedding night though. Very passionate.
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  • Not having sex for 2 weeks is going to make the wedding night extra special? lmao

    or are you practicing for marriage?

     



  • kjewellkjewell member
    I didn't even have sex on my wedding day.  I was so tired that I barely had the energy to take my dress off.  If I were you I would just have the sex now.
    "You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness."
  • imagemagsugar13:

    Not having sex for 2 weeks is going to make the wedding night extra special? lmao

    or are you practicing for marriage?

     

    LOL. exactly!!

    and lets not get our panties in a bunch here. it was just something we thought we would try. And just because we dont have sex for 2 weeks doesnt mean that we are only going to be thinking about that all day on our wedding day. I know that will be the last thing on my mind. We have our whole lives together to have sex and I will have plenty of other things to focus on.

    and even though we have had sex before waiting two weeks leads up to something exciting!! and if we are too tired that night, big woop.

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  • rori11rori11 member
    imagesulzkaila:
    imagemagsugar13:

    Not having sex for 2 weeks is going to make the wedding night extra special? lmao

    or are you practicing for marriage?

     

    LOL. exactly!!

    and lets not get our panties in a bunch here. it was just something we thought we would try. And just because we dont have sex for 2 weeks doesnt mean that we are only going to be thinking about that all day on our wedding day. I know that will be the last thing on my mind. We have our whole lives together to have sex and I will have plenty of other things to focus on.

    and even though we have had sex before waiting two weeks leads up to something exciting!! and if we are too tired that night, big woop.

    The wedding/marriage itself isn't excitement enough?

  • imagerori11:
    imagesulzkaila:
    imagemagsugar13:

    Not having sex for 2 weeks is going to make the wedding night extra special? lmao

    or are you practicing for marriage?

     

    LOL. exactly!!

    and lets not get our panties in a bunch here. it was just something we thought we would try. And just because we dont have sex for 2 weeks doesnt mean that we are only going to be thinking about that all day on our wedding day. I know that will be the last thing on my mind. We have our whole lives together to have sex and I will have plenty of other things to focus on.

    and even though we have had sex before waiting two weeks leads up to something exciting!! and if we are too tired that night, big woop.

    The wedding/marriage itself isn't excitement enough?

    I feel that is kinda obvious...

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  • Sweetie, I think the jig is up.
  • We abstained before our wedding too.  We did a program called Sex Recharge and it was actually great for our relationship and let us reconnect on a deeper level.  (And we had awesome sex on our wedding night)

    Good luck! Congratulations on your wedding. 

  • Well, I don't get it either... SADLY, I am away from my fianc? or I'd have sex with him RIGHT NOW lol I just can't stay away from that man for too long... So doing this would be a struggle for us, cause he's the same way with me. 

     

    If it's that what you want, go for it.. if it'll make it more special, great... but lol I know I couldn't handle.. I'd end up raping him LOL 

      

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  • imagesulzkaila:
    imagemagsugar13:

    Not having sex for 2 weeks is going to make the wedding night extra special? lmao

    or are you practicing for marriage?

     

    LOL. exactly!!

    and lets not get our panties in a bunch here. it was just something we thought we would try. And just because we dont have sex for 2 weeks doesnt mean that we are only going to be thinking about that all day on our wedding day. I know that will be the last thing on my mind. We have our whole lives together to have sex and I will have plenty of other things to focus on.

    and even though we have had sex before waiting two weeks leads up to something exciting!! and if we are too tired that night, big woop.

    2 weeks is nothing, time will go by so quick wont notice really..Thats a normal wait for many people.   Whatever you think you get out of it, hope it works.  Might be a small chance you can't get to wedding night sex, too tired,,too drunk? I know ours, sex was the last thing on our minds. 

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  • HAHA i tried this...the goal was no sex until our wedding day which was 3mos away.  It was easy because we had a long distance relationship or so i thought.  I saw him 1 1/2 mos before the wedding, we took a little trip to get the stress off of all the wedding planning and we failed horribly!!! lol so atleast i had a month and two weeks to try it.  Well unfortunately we had sex 3days before the wedding and for the first time w/o protection, which we've been waiting to do for our wedding night.

    Not trying to discourage you but i was just sharing with you my story when we tried to have no sex before the wedding.  My suggestion try to never be alone with your Fiance...even in a VEHICLE!!!!

    Good Luck!!!

    Anniversary GLH
  • imagekjewell:
    I didn't even have sex on my wedding day.  I was so tired that I barely had the energy to take my dress off.  If I were you I would just have the sex now.

     

    This (almost).  I was dead post-wedding.

    We did have sex, but I honestly don't even remember it.  And not because I was drunk, but rather because it was so uneventful.

    I will tell you that the hotel bed was the most comfortable night of sleep I've ever had though.  I should go back.  Alone maybe, so I can get more rest.   Stick out tongue

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