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Suggestions for my funk
My husband and I had a very honest conversation about our sex life and he let it be known he is quite frustrated. We have been married a year and a half and I feel as if I am in a funk. My mother died 9 months ago and we are very stressed financially so with these 2 things on my mind, sex is the last thing I think about. What suggestions do you all have in helping me get out of my sexual funk and be a better wife to my husband?
Re: Suggestions for my funk
You're probably still in mourning -- the loss of a parent is very rough.
Have you considered grief counseling? Houses of worship and secular groups sponsor them; you might also try your health insurance carrier to find a counselor for grief purposes.
Date nights are a great idea for the both of you -- they need not be expensive.:)
My condolences for your loss. My advice would be for your husband, because there are things he can do to help too. It will be tricky conveying this to him since it may not be the same coming from his wife. And forgive me if this comes across at all as sexist, but I have to put it in guy language.
Choreplay actually works pretty well. When DW goes out with her girlfriends and comes home to a clean house, laundry done and kids tucked in bed, I'm batting at least .800. Of course this can't be the only time you do housework, and you can't expect it to work every time. It's like lobbying. It's not quid pro quo. You're just doing what you can to increase the chances of a favorable outcome;)