May 2008 Weddings
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Poll IHO Bridesmaids the Movie
who were your bridesmaids?
did you have a hard time deciding who to pick?
did anyone you ask tell you no?
did they wear what you wanted them to wear?
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid?
did they throw you a shower?
did they throw you a bachelorette party?
was there any drama?
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids?
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people?
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Re: Poll IHO Bridesmaids the Movie
who were your bridesmaids? i had only one, my MOH, one of my BFFs from high school
did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? yes. i have three girls i'm really close to from home. any one of them could have been my MOH. when it came down to it, i chose the one who i knew i could count on to come (she is reliable and financially stable). the other two can be flaky. as it turned out, of the three, two came (MOH and one other) and the last one had to go to rehab
so it was good i didn't pick her!
did anyone you ask tell you no? no
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? i told her to wear whatever she wanted. she chose a BM dress even though she could have picked something from anywhere. it was cute and in my color.
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? nope.
did they throw you a shower? no, she was too far away (L.A.). my MIL and SIL threw me one shower, and then work had one and some friends from the animal shelter had another.
did they throw you a bachelorette party? no. we were supposed to go out to dinner but we had so much to do for the wedding we stayed home and ordered in.
was there any drama? no thank god.
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? yes, i still talk to her. she is the one who got divorced recently. she got married 2 months after us.
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? maybe. i wanted my other friend but wasn't sure if she was coming until the last minute (the one who came, not the one in rehab). i guess it bothered me that my MOH didn't include me in her wedding at all. i was fine with not being her MOH (she only had 1 person, her SIL), but it bothered me that after she was such a big part of mine, she barely spoke to me at hers (i know people are busy, but i felt like she should have had me do something). it was weird. she invited me and the third friend to a brunch the next day but she invited us the Friday before. at that point we already had plans with our moms to have lunch. she was upset but way to give us notice.
who were your bridesmaids? MOH- sister, Junior MOH- little sister, 3 BMs- 2 good friends and H's sister
did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? No, I went with current friends and felt obligated to have SIL in wedding since SIL's H was in the wedding.
did anyone you ask tell you no? No
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? I told them to pick whatever dress they wanted by a certain designer and I chose the color they wore.
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? No
did they throw you a shower? My sisters did with my mom.
did they throw you a bachelorette party? No, H and I threw that ourselves.
was there any drama? No
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? Yes
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? Yes, they were family and friends I was close to at the time. I wouldn't have minded dropping SIL just because I'm not really a fan of hers, but she helped even things out with the guys. No big deal to me.
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did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? Nope, it was easy. I had a few people I could "add" if H decided to include his brothers in our wedding, but we ended up not going that route.
did anyone you ask tell you no? Nope
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? Sort of - I wanted them to match since it was only the two. One lived out of state so there were lots of emails back and forth and they have totally different taste. I think they finally just picked for it to be over with. I went with it since I had said they could wear whatever they want as long as I liked it. It was much more "bridesmaidy" than I thought they'd pick (I assumed they'd go the Jcrew route or get something they could wear again).
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? No, but they only bought their dresses/shoes. I got them really nice necklaces and my mom paid for their hair/nails. I also paid for one of their alterations since one store included them and the other didn't.
did they throw you a shower? No, but I didnt' want one.
did they throw you a bachelorette party? Yes, but they didn't do a super great job planning it and I was kind of annoyed. It worked out, but we ended up just hitting the bars with no real agenda. I guess I thought they'd put more effort into it, but the OOT one kind of just left it up to the other one.
was there any drama? A little, but nothing major. They are both my best friends, and we all hung out, but they're only close b/c I'm in the middle. Together they bicker, but they were pretty well behaved. Only slight snappyness, which was fine. There was the issue of one of them getting tanked and saying the F word in the speech and the other one hadn't prepared anything, but it was kind of entertaining. It's one of those things I could be majorly mad about, but I chose to laugh it off. I'm the planner, I'm the one that usually "takes care" of them, so I kind of expected them to sort of suck a little. I love them both dearly, but they can be self centered for sure.
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? Yep
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? Yep
If there was one thing I regret and could change about my wedding this is it!
who were your bridesmaids?MOH= stepmother sister, SIL, my cousin, 2 coworkers, friend from high school, H goddaughter, my little sister.
did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? I had a hard time saying no, and I was really hung up on have equal amount of girls as H did guys.
did anyone you ask tell you no? no
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? Yes. They had to wear any dress from alfred angelo in robins egg blue.
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? Not that I know about, but I'm sure there were issues with my MOH and the cost of my shower.
did they throw you a shower? I had several showers. My SIL threw one for H's side of the family. MOH and my mom threw one for my family.
did they throw you a bachelorette party? Ha! So my MOH tells me the plan of us going downtown and bar hopping. I asked about my transportation and she said "Well your stepmom, our friend and me are going to dinner first. If you'd like to join us I guess we can make room" that is EXACTLY what she said. My stepfather played chauffeur for me, my mom, and 2 of my bridesmaids. My MOH and step mother where late to the party, never paid for any of my drinks and left early. That being said I still had a great b-party b/c my mom and other bridemaisds took care of me. Well until I feel and nearly broke my nose.
was there any drama? See above. Also my MOH and my MIL got into a huge fight over the shower. MOH said MIL didn't invite her or my step-mom to her shower. MIL said they flat out refused to come. It was an awful fight and I dont know all the particulars b/c I refused to get involved. Since I shouldn't have known about it in the first place. They ended up having a huge pow-wow at my dad's house that ended up with my stepmom refusing to give me any of the money they promised for the wedding and my H's parents picked up their part in addition to what they were already paying.
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? I've hardly talked to my MOH at all in 3 yrs. My friend K and I were super close until she started cheating on her husband and I didn't support her. I dont talk to my cousin after she stole my moms credit cards this past thanksgiving. So I guess the answer is no not really.
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? No! I'd probably would have had my SIL, H's god daughter, my friend M and my friend K (pre her cheating on her husband).
who were your bridesmaids? 2 friends from college, 2 friends from high school, 1 friend from both hs/college, and my sister. I keep in touch with all of them.
did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? yes, in part, because I wasn't sure I wanted such a big party, but there didn't seem to be anybody I could leave out.
did anyone you ask tell you no? yes. my BFF from middle school/high school was doing city year (part of americorps) across the country, and couldn't get away.
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? yes
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? no
did they throw you a shower? yes, 1 BM did, but it was a big hassle to get the others to come.
did they throw you a bachelorette party? yes, and it was a mess.
was there any drama? oh heck yes
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? yes
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? yes, but - I would have waited longer. I probably would have chosen a different MoH if I had waited a few months. That would have cut down on the drama a lot.
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who were your bridesmaids? MOH- BFF that just got married on the 7th. Ms: 3 of my BFF's, my cousin and my niece was a jr BM
did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? No, though I could have had more, I really wanted my brother's 2 gfs but didn't want them to feel pressured into anything.
did anyone you ask tell you no? No but I did have 2 that I didn't ask.
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? Yeah, the MOH and one of my BFFs chose the dress and I chose the color
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? Nope, not at the time anyway. One did b*tch that my dress cost almost the same as theirs (mine was off the sale rack for $125, a steal!)
did they throw you a shower? My MOH did
did they throw you a bachelorette party? Yep
was there any drama? No
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? Yes
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? Yes but would add more, even though it would be a ridiculous #
who were your bridesmaids? sister, best friend, and two friends from college
did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? nope, already knew who I was going to ask before getting engaged
did anyone you ask tell you no? nope
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? All I said was, "black dress and black shoes." They got to chose everything else.
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? No
did they throw you a shower? Yes, mostly organized by best friend and sister
did they throw you a bachelorette party? Yes
was there any drama? Not that I knew about, but I'm pretty sure there wasn't. I think there was more drama about the groom's party
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? Yes
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? Definitely!
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did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? No, but I think I should have reduced the number of bridesmaids to just two.
did anyone you ask tell you no? Nope
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? They put up a fuss during the process, but in the end they wore what I chose.
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? No
did they throw you a shower? They were supposed to, but didn't plan anything other than bringing game prizes. They didn't even plan the games. So an hour leading into my shower, I researched games. For my own shower.
did they throw you a bachelorette party? Yes, my SIL did and it was amazing.
was there any drama? One BM liked to get attention by moping, and she did that the whole time. The rest of the girls did a good job of ignoring her.
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? All except the mopy bridesmaid. I actually wanted to take her out of the wedding, but I worked with her so I was stuck with her to avoid problems. However she ended up stabbing me in the back at work, so I left that job and her with it. Good riddance.
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? I would have kept only 2, and had the rest come as guests (minus the mopey girl)
did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? We had a larger group of girl friends in high school, and I think a few of their feelings were hurt because they weren't asked. But I had really grown apart from them in the years since we graduated. I knew I wanted the four that I asked to be my BM for sure. There were two roommates of mine from college that I would have wanted to have, but one was doing an internship back East during the time of my wedding, the other was touring with a performing group out of the country.
did anyone you ask tell you no? I did consider asking my SILs, but one made it nicely clear to me that she had been a BM so many times that she'd really just prefer to not be again. So I never officially asked them.
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? Yes, and they chose to buy these shoes all together to wear as well. Which was funny because they said they were soooo uncomfortable the day of, and I just told them that hey, those shoes were not my choice. :-)
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? No.
did they throw you a shower? Yes, they threw me a really beautiful shower.
did they throw you a bachelorette party? Not officially, but the five of us went to Mesquite/Vegas for a weekend about two months before I got married. One of my BMs lived in California at the time, so it was a nice place to meet in the middle.
was there any drama? Nope.
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? Yes.
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? Yes, definitely. These were all girls that I have been friends with for years and years, and I don't see us ever having falling outs or anything like that.
who were your bridesmaids? my sister was my MOH and my friend was the other BM
did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? Not really
did anyone you ask tell you no? nope
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? yes
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? nope
did they throw you a shower? technically my sister did, but it was really all my mom's doing. My sister was a total flake
did they throw you a bachelorette party? yes
was there any drama? my sister was really late the day of to get her hair and makeup done. She also left to go buy jewelry because she didn't bring any to wear because she thought I was supposed to provide her with some even though I told her repeatedly before hand that I wasn't going to and she could wear whatever she wanted.
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? yes
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? I probably wouldn't have had my sister be my MOH. I would have chosen another friend to do it.
who were your bridesmaids? Best Friends and Aunts
did you have a hard time deciding who to pick? My issue was I felt bad leaving some folks out
did anyone you ask tell you no? nope
did they wear what you wanted them to wear? yes
did they complain about the cost of being your bridesmaid? No they have over a year to decide and they could pick their shoes
did they throw you a shower? BF threw a lingerie shower
did they throw you a bachelorette party? BF did that in combination
was there any drama? Yes I kicked out one of my MOH's for being a jerk and not talking to me and acting like the bachelorette party was this big chore when she finally resurfaced after a couple of months.
do you still talk to all of your bridesmaids? Nope. Family drama has caused me not to talk to two of them, the third we never really talk much anyways, my BF has vanished from FB, so just leaves my one aunt and other BF haha
if you could have done it again, would you choose the same people? Eh yes and no. I didn't have a problem with them but it would've been smaller had I not worried about people's feeling and had known some folks true colors.