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BOTB - scared by the stories
Hi Girls. Today, for no particular reason at all, I started lurking around the Bump. I posted a question on one of the boards about the month of birth and the new mom's experience (is it better to have the baby in spring vs. winter) and then I went to the Natural Birth board...
I am really scared of this whole pregnancy thing! The pregnant women on this board are so super informed about their body, the labor, the medical names for everything that is happening to a woman pre- during and post labor... it scared the hell out of me. I feel like a dummy thinking that I want a baby, but having absolutely no idea what it entails. Am I even ready to become pregnant? I feel like it would take years learning about the choices you have, and there are only nine months to make them.
Does any one of you feel this way? Scared, unsure if you are ready, ignorant of what it takes to have a baby from the thought of it to the actual little bundle in your arms? I think I just turned another of my hair grey thinking about this.
Re: BOTB - scared by the stories
Haha, I am TERRIFIED of getting knocked up, which is what I'd call it if that happened to me now considering that I am not at all ready to be a mom. I do not want kids for quite a while. I am not ready to give up my body, my money, and my time to take care of another life yet. DH and I have all we can do to take care of ourselves at this point.
For example, I was at one of my friend's baby showers yesterday and was asked if I'd be willing to record who gave her each gift. I didn't know how to spell onesie. First, I wrote "onezie," then "onesy," and then finally stumbled upon the correct spelling. Then she was talking about how she got boob cream but used the technical name, and I just freaked out internally thinking about a mini human being screwing up my boobs. The whole idea of being responsible for another life entirely freaks me out beyond belief. I do want kids, but not for about 6-7 years.
I know that there are some ladies on here that are already pregnant or trying to get pregnant, so I have a question for you: How do you know that you're ready to have kids? Or do you not know? Is it just something that you feel ready for?
Don't be scared! Until a few months ago I didnt know any of these things LOL. I have learned more in the last week than I could imagine.
To the question about how you know you are ready... I just knew I really wanted a baby and I am 30, so we started to try. I do feel ready though!
I am actually neither pregnant nor am I trying to get pregnant. My DH and I had planned on being married for a few years before we would try to get pregnant and we're both older (I'll be 30 before the end of the year and DH is 28). However, after only a few days of being married both DH and I both got the baby bug. Our few years of waiting turned in to two years...only b/c we have some big trips planned that would not go well with me being pregnant or with a newborn.
I honestly feel like it's just something you just feel ready for. A year ago today, I would have told you, "Heck no I don't want a baby yet!" But now all I can think about is how much I want a baby and how I can't wait to be pregnant. :-)
I am 17 weeks along and my DH and I knew that we wanted to start a family shortly after getting married. I think that being a mom has been something that I have always felt that I was meant to be. Some people know they want to be business women, or nurses, or things like that.... and I honestly feel that way about being a mother. Now whether we are "ready" or not... I don't know if you are ever really 100% ready to be a first time parent. I believe that there is never really the perfect time to have children. I think if you feel as though you are ready to have kids, and that you can provide for you and your own, then I say go for it :-) I personally don't understand those people who want kids, yet keep telling themselves: well maybe after we do A, then maybe after we do B, after we pay off C, and then....... the list goes on. You'll never get around to having kids if you live that way.
DH and I were also together 8 years before we got married. And had lived together for 4. We felt as though this was the next step in building our life and family together. We are ecstatic that we are going to become parents very soon. I know my DH is going to make an amazing father :-)