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XP: WWYD Co-worker grudge.
I posted on my local but figured you guys would be very helpful as well 
Say you've just gotten a new supervisor at work. Prior to their arrival in your particular dept something happened between you two that caused her to not like you and now, uh oh, she's your boss. I should also mention that prior to her arrival you were considered a good employee now however she natters constantly that you don't know what you're doing, blames you for others short coming, brings you up to managment and gets you in with trouble them and basically makes your work life a living hell. You've begun to fear for your job even though you do know what you are doing, you enjoy it and you get along with the rest of your co-workers/clientele. Would you:
1) Apologize for said past incident and ask if you can start fresh
2) Ask if you can talk to her one on one or with her and management to see if you can figure out what the issue is and work with her/them to correct it.
3) Ignore her she has a grudge and no matter what you do she's gonna hate you.
4) Job Hunt
5) Special Snowflake and Explain
I tried to make a poll but it was massive fail.
Re: XP: WWYD Co-worker grudge.
Minus the part about where something happened prior to this person being your boss, you just described my work situation. Since I do not work in the private sector, I would not do any of the above. I currently refuse to have a closed door discussion with my boss and refuse to not speak to the supervisor without someone else present.
I would not apologize, I don't see how that would get you anywhere unless that is what this person is looking for.
I would document anything and everything really. My supervisor tends to forget that things were said or agreed upon. I make sure I reminder emails, etc.
I think you are stuck with 3 or 4 unless there is someone above your supervisor who could help to deal with the situation.
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Depending on what the incident is, I might apologize for it. If I threw her under the bus and it impacted her job I would definately apologize. I think you should talk to her one on one first and see if this can't be resolved. If she still keeps at it, I would talk to HR. Of course I would be job hunting all at the same time.
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2) Ask if you can talk to her one on one or with her and management to see if you can figure out what the issue is and work with her/them to correct it.
I would do this. I don't know what the incident was that occurred prior to her becoming your boss, but if you feel that she is treating you different because of what happened between you two before I would just have a talk about the issues you are having and how to correct them.
Like pp suggested, I would also document everything.
I would suspect that if she really doesn't like you though that is not going to change regardless of what you do. So you may want to start a job hunt or look for an opportunity to move into a different position at your current employer.
GL!
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I think knowing what that past issue was is critical. Was it personality-based or work-related? Because the supervisor may be acting on empirical evidence, and the tone may be different than if it was, say, competitiveness run amok. Everyone has biases, some can be changed, others can't.
The only one of your options that I would NOT pursue regardless of the situation is #3, mostly because it's impossible. You're not going to be able to ignore her, she's your boss.
Apologizing will do no good in this instance. The now-supervisor is/was just trying to cover her hind end. Nothing's going to change that.