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Question on Christmas
I know Christmas is still a LONG ways away, but I was curious to know others thoughts on this.
My DH and I recently moved and now live 9 hours away from his family (instead of an hour) , so we will have to fly to visit for Christmas. With the rising gas prices, we need to book our flights soon - how far in advance to you let your in-laws know your plans?
Short background - my MIL and I do NOT get along (she has done about everything she can to ruin her relationship with me) so we will only be going for the weekend (i.e. the reason we have to fly). Also - there are two sisters with families who live less than an hour away from ILs. They have ALWAYS rotated Christmas around when the girls could make it - this year is different bc DH and I have moved.
How do you handle it? Do you just let them know the exact days you are coming? If so, how far in advance?
Re: Question on Christmas
First I would ask how early did you guys normally plan christmas? was it around thanksgiving or earlier?
Honestly, last year we planned it in July. At the time we were living near the IL's, but had to travel home to see my parents for the actual holiday. Also, with both of our work schedules, we had to plan early to get the time-off that specific weekend. We will have to do the same for his work schedule this year.
I know it is super early, but with the way his family is, (and I know I'm probably partial) it will take this long to get it planned!
Then I recommend first finding 2-3 flight options/dates you like, then telling the family that these are when you can come and see what works best for them before booking anything. if you have a better relationship with the SIL than the MIL maybe talk with them first to coordinate then the rest of the family can coordinate with them. Sorry your MIL is making things difficult. Here's hoping things will smooth out between you two over time.
The other option is to maybe not go to their Christmas since this is your first Christmas as newlyweds and just have your first Christmas to yourselves (if you don't think this will ruin relationships)