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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
TN Newbie
Many of you probably know me as "angelsong21" from TK (changed my username here so it's not so obvious in case any family or friends are on here for some reason). Anyway, I'm hoping it's okay if I hang out over here some for stuff that's not wedding-related. FI and I have lived together for almost 2 years and it would be nice to have a place to talk about some of the issues that come up with that. I've lurked over here for awhile but I hope it would be okay to make a few posts too. 
Re: TN Newbie
There are actually quite a few girls on TK who are in the same position as you that don't feel right to post here. The only reason I do is because my original wedding date was awhile ago, but it got pushed back after I broke my ankle. So I was on TK planning with a lot of the girls that are here already.
So, there will be a lot of people not happy with you posting here from TN as well as TK, just letting you know...
PS- you can post non wedding stuff on TK too! A lot of us there have been living together for awhile too.
I don't look at it as stepping on toes, but you're still almost a year out from even getting married. We wouldn't think anything about it if you were a month away and the only reason why some of us even stayed on TK was because TN was dead. TN will still be here, being lively as your wedding day approaches.
I'm confused? She shouldn't post here because it's a year until her wedding date? I wasn't aware that the nest was just for married couples. If it was, then why is there a same-sex households and a starting over board?
I thought the nest was more about living life and the knot was more about planning a wedding. I was never a knot poster, but in the year or so I've been on the nest I've never seen it as a problem when women who aren't married yet post.
As far as I am concerned I welcome anyone to a public message board at anytime. So, welcome.
We have a same-sex household poster on here (Infamous...). In fact, they got married and she did post on TK as she was planning her wedding.
Starting over, in my mind, would be after a marriage has ended, due to whatever reason.
I'm just saying that a person who still has a year before they get married is not in the same place as the rest of us here.
I think this further proves my point. I was completely aware that infamous is in a same-sex relationship but as I'm sure everyone knows in many states same sex couples aren't considered legally married. It's completely ridiculous that they are denied the same privileges as married couples although they may live together, share assets, and are committed to each other.
I may have mistakenly understood that you meant the nest is for "married" couples, in the traditional sense of the word based on this post. Perhaps I was wrong, but that's the way I took your response.
The OP stated that she and her fianc?e have lived together for the past two years. I really don't feel that when DH and I got married that anything changed because of our wedding day except that we were now legally married. I felt just as committed to him the day, week, and month before our wedding day as I did the day of our wedding. We still went back to living the same life we lived before we got married. We lived together for three years before getting married.
As far as the starting over board is concerned, those on that board are in a completely different place in their lives as the rest of us here.
Again, this is just my point of view and perhaps I'm wrong, but I welcome anyone to a public message board. I am always interested in talking with people who are at different places in their lives because you never know what you might learn from someone.
I disagree and that's my right just as it's yours to disagree with me.
I didn't get that Julie said it was for people married in the traditional sense... however, men and women in a same-sex marriage go through all of the "traditional" things that we do, including the wedding, babies, etc. That's a slippery slope you're on so I'd be careful in that regard.
For dahlia, you're obviously welcome to post here, there are no rules about it. I think inquiring minds were just interested to know why the change since TK has a lot of NWR talk too... that's all.
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Whoa goodness, this post took a wrong turn! I think the only rule here is "no wedding talk" and even that gets broken sometimes.
Welcome, Dahlia.
Whoops! I think I've gotten better though... haha
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We are just rebels like that.
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Didn't mean to cause any wrong turns.
I'm glad I haven't broken the one "rule" yet though!
I agree with Tiffany. DH and I dated for 10 years before we finally got married. We built a house, lived together, and were dealing with those "times in our lives" before were were even married.
Welcome!
I agree with both of you. I think anyone is welcome over here. Honestly, if the Nest had been active when I was wedding planning, the Knot would have featured a lot less prominently in my online time - weddings are nice, but they don't thrill me.
A lot of girls on the national boards of the Nest have no intention of getting married and are in relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends or sometimes in no relationship at all - so I am not sure we can use the newlywed or relatively recently married standard for who can and can not post.
Welcome to the board Dahlia!
YES! Me either. If I had been comfortable enough coming to TN before I was married, I would have skipped all that TK crap. I hated wedding talk, and planning. Gag me. But, I felt like too, this was a place for married people so I stayed away until after the wedding.
But, then, I never would have met you wonderful ladies. So, it all worked out.
I think all Julie meant was, we don't really want engaged girls coming over here asking us questions about wedding related things and talking about flowers and centerpieces. Because that has a place too, on The Knot.
But aside from that, I say anyone is welcome also!
Yep. It's kind of like coming over here and asking about pediatricians. With very few exceptions, most of us don't have kids.
Or daycare. I don't get that. My first inclination would be to go to TB if I had a question like that.
Aww, OP, come back, come back! We'd love to have you!
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So, y'all are ok with it now? I have heard some of y'all question why a knottie was posting over here.
The main reason y'all came here from TK was to separate yourselves from the drama. If you start inviting every Knottie newbie to come over, the drama will follow.
And I don't see how living together makes a difference to be here. There are a lot of girls on TK that have lived with their fiances for years and they still don't feel right to come over here, because they aren't a OMH yet.
We're just not The Nest police... so we can't say where anyone is allowed to post. We are a friendly bunch anyway.
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