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Q for the PG/Mommy Nannies
How did your approach telling your bosses you were pregnant? I'm hoping to tell my boss tomorrow or Thursday before my appointment on Friday. She didn't know I was pregnant before and doesn't know about my m/c either. I'm trying to figure out how to bring it up, and what all I need to be prepared to talk about right away. Were your bosses immediately curious about leave and your position after the baby came, or did this come up at a later time. I'm not 100% sure she's comfortable with me bringing my own child, but I'm pretty sure she'll be okay with it. Any thoughts/advice?
Re: Q for the PG/Mommy Nannies
He actually guessed it when I was around 6 weeks. It was during a time where we had meetings scheduled from 8am-5pm. One of the days I brought in a ginger ale and he looked at me and said "Morning Sickness? Wait, I can't ask that !" So I just smiled and said "yes!". He then proceeded to congratulate me and gave me a fist bump (he's anti-hand shaking). The next day he came in talk about my leave and to have me start to brainstorm who I thought would be the best person to fill in. From there, I have been slowly training her ever since. I keep making sure he knows I'm coming back, though, because I don't want to be totally replaced and moved to a different dept.
It was good for him to know soon so that he wouldn't be questioning me constantly disappearing for appts or so that he knew that there were limits on certain things. It was also good so that he understood why I would constantly have to leave a meeting to go pee!
ETA: I should probably read the full title. I'm not a nanny but was still hesitant on telling my boss and was glad he guessed first.
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Not a nanny, but I told my boss at 12 weeks, to be on the safe side. He said he already knew what I was going to tell him, though. And he was fine with it. We didn't discuss formalities and maternity leave until much later... no need to rush anything with so much else going on. But once he knew I felt much better going to doctors appts and such... honesty is the best policy!
updated 10.03.12
Not a nanny either, but I told my bosses at about 10 weeks. They guessed before I could tell them as well! All the ginger ale and random puking gave it away! LOL
Thanks ladies! For some reason I feel like i'm going to be letting her down, even though I plan to still work there, work the same amount of hours, and take a pay cut (since i'll be caring for 3 children, and 1 won't be hers). Hopefully she's as excited for me as I am.
When I was hired, I was really open about the fact that we were TTC and I preferred a family that would allow me to bring my kid along. They were also TTC at the same time. She got pregnant first, then a month later I did. I actually told her the same day we found out. I had no problem telling her that early; she's a doc so it was nice to have her to talk to and ask questions to before I saw my own doctor.
As for leave....the plan is for me to work until I have the baby or until I feel like I cant anymore. Since she'll be home on maternity leave mid August and her family will be in town, its going to work out really well. They also have someone to cover for me in the event that I need to be out early or if she feels like she needs more help than just her family (which I cant possibly imagine she would...there's so many of them). I'll go back sometime in November unless we can afford for me to stay home with Olive. I would prefer to be able to stay home with her but we'll see how it goes. We'll have to consider the fact that it will be me, two newborns, and a 2 1/2 year old.
I had to tell them earlier than planned, since I had to make a next day appointment to make sure all was well with something. I don't remember how far along I was. I was super nervous, but I am an anxious person. Also, I interviewed for 4 different positions and knew that I didn't remember to bring up the topic with all of them. I started on October 1st and got pregnant the same month.
I called them and asked if I could come over, since it was a weekend and had to go to doctors on Monday. I started crying when I began to talk to them (my norm, I cry ALL.the.time). Their response was amazing! They were relieved that I wasn't saying I was quitting. The mom also said she had an idea because I wasn't having my morning coffee anymore lol. Also, she said it was expected since I was young, newly married and obviously love kids since I work with them. They were very excited actually and were completely okay with me bringing him.
They are so great with him. While I was on leave, they bought a new crib and set up a nursery for Weston. They also went through all Aiden's old stuff and brought it out for Weston to use. The mom spoils us even if I tell her she doesn't have to. She keeps diapers, food, snacks and formula stocked up at their house for Weston.
I don't think you should bring up at paycut. What kind of relationship do you have with them? I just feel like as a nanny, you become like family and that is something that shouldn't have to happen. I don't know, maybe I live in my own bubble. With the family I work for, a pay cut was never mentioned and I actually got a really good raise for my 1 year, which was only a few months after I returned from my leave.