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ladies...wwyd poll
Ok, so some quick background. DH has a sister and a brother. Brother is married and sister is engaged (wedding is this summer).
Last year for some reason, sister never sent me a bday card - she sent me an e-card and called, but no card or gift (I always send her a gift and she has always given me gifts in the past). Her FI's bday is 9 days after mine, and last year DH refused to send him anything because a) it was just her BF at the time and b) they didn't even send me a card. I don't really care about it too much. I know that SIL gave BIL's wife a giftcard for her bday because I helped her spend it a few weeks later when we went shopping together.
Anyway, this year, no card or e-card from SIL. She did call, but I didn't answer. I can only assume no gift is coming. Her BF is obv now her FI. So I got him a card but DH was insisting no gift. I feel bad. What would you do?
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Re: ladies...wwyd poll
I think a card is fine. We actually don't do gifts for the adults in DH's family and I liked the idea so much, I carried it over to my family. We will gather to have a small cake and sing happy birthday, but no gifts and most of the time no cards. All the kids live for us to do the cake and sing happy birthday, which is why we do it that way. Now that my oldest two nephews understand what birthdays are we are starting to celebrate on the actual day or they ask a million questions. Prior to that we'd just do it if we gathered on Sundays. I do send cards to my family b/c we are long distance.
I would just send the card, I am a card person the lady in our local hallmark store knows my name:) My SILs have never sent me a bday card, they didn't send us an engagement card, congrats on your new home etc. At first it would hurt my feelings, but they just aren't card people, I know they care and if we are all out together (which we usually are) we'll buy each other a drink/meal for a bday, special occasion etc. but we've stopped doing gifts. They always awknowledge that I always send cards, and I know they appreciate it.
I send cards for everything, as I enjoy them, and I know others appreciate it. My MIL loves that I send her a Nurses Day Card, to me its just an easy way to show you were thinking of them. My parents are card people, so I guess its just carried on with me.
I really wish we could JUST do cards. I hate all the gift stuff, we all end up just doing gift cards and it is just weird and impersonal. I always wish we could just call the whole thing off. DH and his brother have bdays close together and DH will write a check and then his brother sends one back the next week in the same ammt. Last year DH sent his brother $1,000 and then his brother had to write a check for $1,000 back. Hah! they had a good laugh and finally this year decided a card alone was FINE.
In other news, I decided to send a $25 amazon gift card. I just felt bad sending a card and no gift, even though I got no card or gift from them the last two years.
I really wish we could do just cards. DH's family is so gifty, and mine really isn't. Like it's expected for every freaking event that there's a huge gift involved. I'd be happy with a "card only" rule.
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