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Buried or cremated?
Jason's grandfather (who raised him, so he's more like his Dad) isn't in the best of health these days and they just found a couple more problems, so it got Jason and I talking about death last night. He said he wants to be cremated whereas I want to be buried. So I guess his ashes could be buried next to my coffin since a lot of couples prefer to share the same plot? My Dad also recently told me he wanted to be cremated; I don't plan on him dying any time soon, but he is 64 and I think he just wanted someone to know just in case anything were to happen and since he never remarried and I'm the most responsible one out of my siblings, I guess he figured I was the one to tell.
So what do you want to happen to your body once you pass away? Does your DH want somthing different?
Re: Buried or cremated?
est. 10/10/10
I think you can bury them just like you would a coffin. I am sure some cemetaries are different of course, but I know my ex had his Dad cremated and they buried the box right next to his grandmom's grave.
We will donate any needed organs for transplant - except the eyes. I just can't deal with the thought of someone having my eyes.
I want to be cremated and spread over water. Chris doesn't swim, so he doesn't want to be near water. He changes the subject a lot when I talk about it, so I've never really gotten a good read about what he wants.
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DH thinks he wants to be buried, but doesn't have any idea of where...
Now you will all know what a weirdo I am, but if it is possible, I actually wouldn't mind if my body was donated for research and/or education. Maybe it's just the science teacher in me. I've told Ken this and he doesn't have a problem with it. If that is not possible or necessary (in some areas of research they actually have too many bodies) then I would like to be cremated (after any possible organ donation).
Just as you all suspected....I am a little strange!
DH and I both completely agree with this. It may be morbid, but sometimes we discuss were we'd want our ashes spread. We both love the idea of having a fund for our children so that they could travel somewhere to spread our ashes and that we'd leave them the money to do so.
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Both of us are organ donors, and, like Brooke and Chavis, we believe that what happens to our bodies is irrelevant once we're gone, but we believe strongly in being able to help someone else who may be in need of our organs.
As far as the interment arrangements, Ron's family has a plot at the cemetary at Fort Leavenworth, where he will be buried alongside his parents, but I have always hated the idea of being buried, so a portion of my ashes will be buried in the same plot with him. What's done with the rest will be up to my kids to decide what is most fitting and meaningful for them. The only requirement is that I be cremated and not buried.
I also have non-mainstream views of how I want my funeral conducted. I don't want it to necessarily be a heavy-hearted, sad occasion. I understand, or at least hope, that my family will miss me when I'm gone, but I believe that I'm going to a place whose joys we can't even imagine here on Earth, so it should be more of a going-away party than a cause for sorrow. I'm fine with reminiscing, but I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me when I'm gone. I want my favorite songs played, and lots of pictures of the good times posted up for everyone to see. Shoot, I kinda hope they serve really great food, too!
My boss (who's gay) wants them to play "It's Raining Men" at his celebration of life when he dies
I don't think this is strange at all, especially for a science teacher!
I read a book called Stiff that's about what happens to bodies when they are donated. It's quite interesting, I would give it a read if you plan on doing it!
My dad wants all his organs donated and to be cremated...he has threatend to haunt us if this doesn't happen lol.
I want to donate some of my organs, then be buried. I feel like having a place to go is important. I really don't want an open casket...personally, when I see that I can't picture the person any other way but lying there dead (weird, I know). But if my family decides they need that, I can't stop them lol
Lance and I have not really discussed it in much detail. I really think that I want to be in a mausoleum, but I knwo that is extremely pricey so I think that I would want to be buried, but I also like Hannah's idea of startinga fund so I can be spread somewhere nice by my children.
I am an organ donor and I would want anything viable to be used for transplant. I also want a DNR, if I am going to have to be on a ventilator I would rather just be dead.
I want to be buried, and so does Matt. I don't know why, but the idea of being cremated has always been unsettling to me. I believe that who I am is really my spirit, so what is left when I am dead is just my shell and not really me, so it shouldn't matter what is done with my body. However, I just don't feel comfortable with the idea of being burned and turned to ashes. It just disturbs me for some reason.
I think I want to be friends with your boss!
I've made it clear to everyone I love how important it is to me that I have all my bits and bobbles harvested for donation followed by a biodegradable burial (no titaniam or lacquered cherry wood coffin for me!). I used to have a dream of my skeleton ending up in a school somewhere, but I doubt anyone would want it because of my cervical rib. Sooo..... hubby and I talked about it, and while he's still unsure what he'd like, I made it clear that I'd like to be buried in a cardboard box or untreated wood coffin that would degrade quickly so all the worms, wigglies and plants could benefit from our rot. And I want this on my gravestone:
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quite birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
Hubby is a little hesitant to talk about what he wants done, and finds it a bit morbid. He's sure he doesn't want cremation, and I'm pretty sure I've convinced him to have his organs harvested. And he knows he wants to be buried next to me. The other details, though, he's really unsure.