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Team Green Ladies
Please give me a pep talk! Tomorrow is my Big U/S and I really really want to be on Team Green since I know this will be our last baby. Plus I have both boy and girl clothes, so that doesn't matter.
I am afraid that I will have a moment of weakness and want to find out. Or what if the tech slips? I also have to have an u/s every 4 weeks, so it's not like I just have to pass this 1 hurdle. I'm going to have a chance to find out every.single.month! gah!
So, please give me a pep talk and tell me why Team Green is awesome.
Re: Team Green Ladies
you either want it or you don't.
i repeated 200xs i didn't want to know to the tech and asked what pronoun she will use beforehand.
This. I never had a moment when I wanted to find out.
Good idea! With Bella the guy always prefered to use "he". I'll have to double check that
it sounds like you are trying to convince yourself that you dont want to know.
I tend to agree with SD.
Whatever you decide, you'll still be surprised (whether it's from looking at an u/s screen or in the delivery room). I know it's an unpopular opinion 'round these parts. Do you what you want.
is it a bad thing to find out now? or you guys just want the delivery room surprise?
I agree with pp- either you want to know or you don't.
I always knew I didn't want to find out for any of my pregnancies. For me, when I thought about finding out it made me sad- I realized I would be disappointed if I found out at the u/s and didn't wait. I always wanted that moment in the delivery room when, after all these months of waiting, you finally find out. That's just me- everyone has their preference. But if you REALLY don't want to find out then you won't give in.
DH saw penis before the announcement. So sometimes it happens.
Tammy,
I was Team Green with DS#1 and just found out last Monday we'd be having a DS#2 at our ultrasound. I regret it. Wholeheartedly. It was so anticlimactic and the tech was like, oh it's a boy. No, "Are you ready? What's your guess?" Just oh it's another boy.
If we're able to conceive baby #3 I will be back to Team Green. It was soooo much better to here the doctor announce and see the look on DH's face!!
Erica
I am hardcore Team Green, but even I had a momentary twitch at the u/s where I wanted to find out. I told the u/s tech right up front and she was like "Oh I don't even bother with that stuff unless the person asks". I also couldn't pick out anything either time
Mr. eagles really wanted to find out with Charlie, but finding out in the delivery room converted him to Team Green. It's just awesome, I don't know how else to describe it. I personally can't imagine wanting to find out. I mean, I get why people want to know but for us it just doesn't compare to that delivery room moment
That said, you are in for a long haul if every u/s is going to give you anxiety. Are you not finding out because you think you should? If you really want to know, just find out
I will also say that if we have a 3rd, part of me wants to find out just so I can know what crap I can get rid of. But then I think "what if they are wrong?" and my paranoia wouldn't let me get rid of anything until the baby is born anyway
Whatever you decide, I hope he/she is a perfect and healthy baby!
DS 3.12.08
DD 7.11.09
DD 8.01.13
I hope Baby 4 is perfect, healthy, and stays put until 40 weeks.
That said, there is no way you're not going to find out the sex of this baby.
I mean, come on, if you need to be convinced now when you have like a dozen u/s coming up, then it's never going to happen that you're going to hold out. There's too much temptation.
I know I wouldn't be able hold out!
Thanks for all the input ladies. I was "Team Green" with Bella all up until 13 weeks when I had my NT Scan and the guy said he could guess and was about 85% sure. I said I didn't want to know, then walked out of the room and tracked him down to find out. I think I was waiting for that "It's a girl!" and still even after all my other u/s's I wondered if they were sure. When she came out, I remember having a short moment of "How cool would it have been to be surprised"...
With Baby#4, I really really want that moment of surprise. I know that this is 100% the last baby. I think it is family that has me 2nd guessing. My MIL & SIL (whom I'm very close with) are going with me tomorrow and are saying they are going to try and find out and not tell me. I told them it wasn't going to fly and that they can wait in the waiting room if that was the case.
I think I'm also worried about seeing something on the screen. I've had a bajillion u/s's over the last 3 pregnancies and pretty much know whats what.
I think I will stick to my guns and not find out. I know its what I really want and I can't let people try and talk me out of it. Overall, we want a healthy, FULL term baby, and thats all that matters. I'll update tomorrow with hopefully good healthy baby results!
I agree with the others that you will hold your ground if you really don't want to know. I didn't have an ultrasound every month, but I feel like I had my fair share. Plus, because of the amnio, the sex was sitting in my file, so everytime I went for my monthly appts, I had to tell them we didn't know (if you're team green they don't put the sex in your file). Dh thinks the doctor slipped, but I didn't hear it that way. I also thought I heard the tech slip, but you question yourself so much that you don't remember what it was they said. It's never been blatant, just "did she just say her?" type things.
I can't convince you to be team green, I don't know what it will be like in the delivery room, I just knew from day one I didn't want to know.
DD: 6-24-11
EDD: 9-20-14
You know, I get wanting to be Team Green. But really, this is so
. Trust me, I was surprised as hell when they said boy in the ultrasound room, as I was certain I was carrying an evil Sybil-esque daughter who was slowly destroying me from the inside.
Also, I'm surprised at least once a week by something. The world really isn't all that predictable.
Back from my u/s and I am happy to say that baby is looking very healthy and I am still Team Green!!! I had a really great Tech that always said "The Baby", and was very careful when measuring the legs, etc.
I still have to go every 4 weeks for right now, and I beleive once I hit 30 weeks, it will move to every 2 weeks, if not every single week. I have a long road a head of me, but as long as the baby is healthy and stays put at least until 36 weeks, than I'll be happy.
ETA: A Picture of Quatro for good measure.
Team Green here and will probably be from here on out. I wanted that very sitcom like, "It's a BOY!" announcement and wasn't tempted at my U/S. My delivery was so traumatizing for me that I was so glad to have the news that I have a son to keep me distracted from everything else. I agree it's one of life's one great surprises and even though the U/S reveal is also a surprise, mom and dad then spend the rest of the pregnancy picking out the name, bedding, wardrobe, everything all for that gender. I preferred it the other way.
I also think you'll find out tomorrow. You're too tempted and it's too easy to cave if you want to know.
DS 3.12.08
DD 7.11.09
DD 8.01.13