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Going to HR about problem manager?
Has anyone done this? I have a terrible manager who just doesn't care about his employees, or his work, has a terrible work ethic and I am at the end of my rope. I can't take anymore. I already know other people have issues with him as well so I don't think the reprecussions will be negative on me....i plan on handling this professionally...
Please share your stories if you have any!!
Re: Going to HR about problem manager?
I am currently doing this so I cannot post any details here. I suggest that you are organized and detailed when you go to HR and that you are prepared for your boss to deny everything. It's helpful if there are people to verify some of the things that you are saying.
It also depends on whether or not you are in the public or private sector or if you job has a special system set up for this.
I think in most cases going to HR is not the most effective approach.
He doesn't care about his employees? It isn't his job to care about you; it is hs job to ensure you are doing YOUR job.
He has a terrible work ethic? That isn't really for you to judge.
You are the end of your rope? Then quit and let boss hire someone who can deal with his management style.
Other people have issues as well? Not your business nor concern.
You don't think this will negatively affect you? Think again; it probably will and likely in a bad way.
Define how your ability to complete your job is impacted by your manager and then see if these are things you can work out directly with him, or if it is possible to find a mentor to help you learn work work around him and "manage your manager".
Sorry this isn't what you want to hear. But anyway, I do have a story. I did not get along with my manager - she was certifiably insane. Anyway, I am generally tough and assertive so while I did the best I could at my work, I pushed back on her regularly when she went over the top. Finally she went to HR and when I spoke with HR I told them how I didn't appreciate the demeaning way she treated me. They gave me some coping skills and my manager was ultimately a bit nicer to me. But honestly, it could have gone the other way. The thing is that I didn't feel like I had anything to lose. I hated the job, the compensation was pittance. But I was not acting in my best interest. Ultimately I needed the job to pay my bills and had I been fired I would have been up the creek. The best thing I learned from this were those coping skills and it made me appreciate managers after her who were truely effective in their jobs. But my reputation was not made any better by my actions - of that I am quite certain.
I am in HR and have dealt with this type of situation from another angle.
I'd leave out the things about his work ethic, how much he cares about employees, etc. If there are specific things that he has done or said to reflect that, make sure those are well documented. But going in and saying "he doesn't care about us" makes you sound whiney and unreliable. Going in to HR and saying "On May 25, he said this to me" is a different story.
There are such things as bad managers, and having everything documented (and bringing it to HR) can definitely help/protect you if you do it correctly.
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I appreciate the feedback. I am currently in a Master's of Management Program so I am using that plus common sense to determine what is right and wrong with this manager. I do have specifics, however, I did not want to post them on here. I don't have specific dates, though.
I wasn't planning on going and complaining about him and whining to HR. I was planning on just voicing my concern about some inappropriate things he has done as well as my feelings about not being able to grow and improve upon myself with him as my manager. I have already gone to my supervisor, who has gone over his head and his manager agrees he does a bad job, but has done nothing to fix the situation. Which is why I now feel the need to go in a different direction....
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I did this. I documented everything the horrible manager said and did to me and met with HR after sending off my email. The HR person asked me what I thought would be a solution. So you should be prepared to offer some up.
Like others said,set realistic expectations. In my case, the manager wasn't going anywhere and I was miserable so I asked be let go with a generous severance package and the ability to collect unemployment.
No one thought I was crazy and in hindsight I'm glad I did that because I got a new job that I absolutely love with fabulous managers.
I didn't go to HR but I reported it to my boss's boss in home office (very large company). I initiated it by asking if they ever seek out employee feedback of management and she was open to it. So I found a random questionnaire for this online and filled it out, very honestly with specific examples of inappropriate behavior and comments. I would consider myself a respected long-term employee so maybe that helped my credibility.
I don't know if anything else led up to this but within 2 months she was asked to resign.
I still wonder if she knows; she never led on that she did.