Mad props to DH

wittyschaffy · May 2011

Dh stopped in to see his parents today and drop off a check to them (they have some loans that they took out for DH's technical degree that he's paying them back on). During a convo, MIL made some comment about us needing to get busy filling our new "bigger" car (which is BS - we didn't upsize at all, just got a newer car). Without missing a beat, DH turned it back around and let his mom know that comments like that have to stop. There is WAY to much pressure on us to have kids and that we'll get around to it when we're good and ready but the hints, insinuations and outright asking about it needs to end immediately.

DH doesn't know if she realized how serious he was but he at least opened the door for both of us to shut it down if it happens again. This has been a HUGE frustration I've had with my ILs for a while now and DH was hesitant to bring it up because he knows, as do I, that they didn't mean any harm by it and they tend to react poorly when DH lets them know that their behavior needs some modification. They didn't talk to us for a good month after DH told them that they (read MIL) really needed to stop calling to remind us about family gatherings and that we're perfectly responsible people who haven't missed a single thing yet and they have no reason to think that we would.

I know that was a hard conversation to have with her and I'm really proud of DH for standing his ground. This is a new thing for him and he's not quite smooth at it yet but he'll get there!

Muffin'sMom · May 2011

Good for him! I know from long experience with both of our crazy families that NOTHING is better than having each other's backs without having to ask.