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Help!! No libido...
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and I had our daughter about 6 months ago.. Ever since I had her I've had absolutely no sex drive. Its really hurting our relationship, we've talked about it and he thinks I'm not attracted to him or something, which isn't the case. I love him with all my heart but our relationship is going downhill because of this...Is this normal?? I keep thinking my hormones are all messed up because I had a baby but how long is it supposed to last? I don't know whats going on someone please help! He doesn't feel like were intimate at all and we both don't want a relationship like this... I don't know what to do..
Re: Help!! No libido...
Ditto.
GL.
This!
For some reason there seems to be many women that because they went through such a stressful experience with giving birth they either don't recognize their bodies anymore or on a subconscious level have had a child and do not wish to try and have another meaning they shut down their libido. Make sure you talk to someone because as humans we are programmed to have a libido until we die.
Good luck!
1. Are you still breastfeeding? This can cause a decrease in sex drive.
2. Major hormone changes. Did you start birth control again? Pills can also have a decreasing effect.
3. You have a BABY! We treasure sleep more than ever now!
4. This is so common among new moms or moms of infants/children in general. My OB's advice: Force yourself into the mood. Sex is a great stress reliever and you will feel better after.
5. If it is really effecting your relationship, call your doctor! There is always medical advice available. Or counseling. :-)
They say babies change everything, but this one doesn't have to be permanent.
1. You have a small child. Guessing sleep is still a luxury you are missing quite a bit of. Why you're tired, you're body often could care less about sex and more about pressing issues like living and having enough energy to care for your child.
2. Hormones are sometimes terrible things and go a bit wonky after kids arrive (and during the whole pregnancy).
Check in with a doc but also consider a little weekend away sometime. See if a grandma would be willing to watch the little one so you can have a little time to get away, go some place fun, eat a nice aphrodisiac loaded dinner, rest for a bit and romance for a while.
I have also discovered the 'joy' of maintenance sex. Which is basically where you get your body back into the rhythm of it and later the emotions and fun follow.