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Calling all Moms
If you work full time and you are a mom, please give me your opinion.
I am at a point in my carerr where I can do one of two things. I can become a project manager, which means more stress a little longer hours and a lot more responsibility. Or I can stay in my current position and hit a platue.
I always thought that being a project manager and one day a department manager was my goal. Now that I have a 3 yr old and a 6 month old, I am not sure that I want to do that. I currently work 32 hrs a week, and I am considered full time, but I have already been told I have to work 40+ hrs to be a PM.
I wouldn't have a problem juggeling both, but I drive 1 hr each way to work every day. I don't want to mis my daughter's after school activities that she will start in a few years.
Thanks for the input!
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This.
If you are unhappy or unsatisfied? Would taking the new position make you satisfied at work but unsatisfied in your family life because you will be working more and may miss activities for your children?
If this an opportunity that will not come around again?
I would have an extremely difficult time giving up a 32 hour work week and being considered full-time with little kids. To me, that's golden.
If I were in your situation, I would only consider it if the difference in pay meant my family went from juggling bills to being financially secure. If we were already comfortable money-wise, then I wouldn't consider it.
I think it's a fine balance between happiness and money. I would never take a job that made me miserable even when I was with my kids, but I also dislike it when people think that being a SAHM is always the best thing for kids. (These are the extremes, I know)
My mom was a SAHM and I resent her for it. I feel like she was pretty lazy, and we never had money because she didn't work. I would have rather her worked a 40 or 50 hour week so that we could have gone on family vacations, school trips, taken lessons, etc. Again, a little extreme to what you're asking, but for me it does come down to money. Are you in a position where you can keep working 32 hours and still afford most/all of the things your kids will (reasonably) ask for?
On the other side of it, I live for my son's preschool events. You're right to think about what you will miss- those are precious times. Good luck with your decision!
I''m at a job that is VERY flexible, low-pressure, and I get a TON of time off. But oh-my-God - I'm bored beyond belief and just do not enjoy waht I'm doing at all.
While I'm not strongly looking for a new job yet, I am starting to pay more attention, get my resume in order, etc. I'm at a breaking point where I really don't know how much longer I can stick at a job I really don't like even though it's SO flexbile.
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If I were in that situation, I'd definitely stay where I was, and "hit a plateau." Time with your kids is priceless.
This comes from someone who actually quit her job, because the work/life balance was so awful! I'm currently unemployed, but looking. We're stressed financially right now, while I am unemployed, but it is so wonderful having extra time with my kids! I'm looking for a new job that fits me better, something with a better balance.
I had a boss tell me before that money and success are temporary satisfiers. And so, you may get a promotion or a raise but you will still always want more. I was young at the time and ignored him but it is the truth. I learned when my daughter was born that the time at home is more important to me. Although I can totally understand the struggle! Especially when you work so hard to succeed and do your job to the best of your ability.
Good luck!
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Time with my child is priceless, but not being "stressed financially" is pretty damn awesome too.