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DH work hours vent
I hate that Seth has to work on weekends and evenings. Not only does that not allow us to be together as a family but it leaves me to be the single parent most of the time...which is exhausting.
He gets one day off a week and usually we get dinner together once or twice a week.
Anyone else in the same boat??
Re: DH work hours vent
Yes, we are. DH and I work opposite each other to keep the kiddos out of daycare. So he goes in the morning until 3:45pm, then we meet at my work to switch off cars and he heads home for the evening with the girls, he's usually asleep when I get home.
Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays I work full days ( one opening and two closing shifts)
Tuesdays are my day off, and I see him when he gets home from work
Other than that it's a quick "Hey how are you, have a good day. Love you, bye"
On the one hand I'm glad Matt doesn't work that schedule anymore, but on the other I wish he still had the Oakley paycheck. This whole starting a business thing scares me.
He does get that one day on the weekend so we get that together. I'm torn sometimes between asking him to take Abe for a few hours so I can be alone or if I should just spend all that time as a family. That one day is my chance to get ready for the work week too (meal prep, laundry, etc.).
I'm way to chicken to start a business.
He does get that one day on the weekend so we get that together. I'm torn sometimes between asking him to take Abe for a few hours so I can be alone or if I should just spend all that time as a family. That one day is my chance to get ready for the work week too (meal prep, laundry, etc.).
I'm way too chicken to start a business.
The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware; joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. -Henry Miller
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Ugh I'm sorry Brianne, you aren't alone! We run into the same thing DH works an ungodly amount of hours as the "boss" he has to fill in when his slacka$$ staff calls out or doesn't feel like working...Now that the summer is here there won't be one day during the week that we are home as a family, he has been and will continue to work both sat and sun so that leaves me with the little guy.
Hang in there hopefully it will get better soon!
Oh and don't be afraid to ask DH to take Abe for a couple hours so you can have some YOU time. Its important and vital to your sanity!
Family time is important but I feel like "you" time is really important too - if you need a couple hours, definitely ask for it.
I'm not quite in as bad a boat as you guys, but I certainly feel your pain. Last year I was working tons of extracurricular jobs (very little money, but tons of time commitment) in addition to my teaching job and my business. I decided to drop as much as I could and ditched all of the extracurriculars in hopes that I'd see DH more (it was definitely effecting our marriage). Then I got offered the college teaching job. Good money, but 12+ more hours of work a week. I wanted the money, so I took it. But then I was teaching for 14 hours a day two days a week. Plus I just finished my M.Ed. in the fall and my business had an insanely busy fall last year. So I was going crazy.
I finally ditched it all officially so I'll just be teaching and have my business next year, plus I reconfigured my business so I don't accept that much in the fall so I can keep my sanity.
Beyond that, I have at least one full weekend a month scheduled for "hubby time". And I'm only allowed to book one gig a weekend (typically Saturday) to leave the other day for "hubby time", too. It's nice being my own boss, especially in the summer, but the job means that my weekends get hit the hardest and then I'm home all week without DH.
There are positives and negatives to all it, but when your marriage needs some TLC, the positives can be hard to find some days.
well, we don't have kids, so it's definitely a different situation, but DH and I have gone through periods where our schedules were less than desirable for spending time together...I've almost always been the one with the "normal" hours, until now...I work weekends and some days from 7:00 am - 7:00 pm or later, depending...and long days are unpredictable...and H just accepted a great job working M-F, 8:00 - 4:30, which is awesome for him, but will definitely make my hours more frustrating
I know we are working towards an ultimate goal of having our own business and these are the steps that will hopefully make it happen, so I try to stay positive about it
as for time for yourself: as important as time as a family! PLUS, I'm sure your DH would love some time with the little guy
Literally - yes : )
Hubby leaves to fish at 7pm one night and is gone for 48 hrs and it is totally random when it is happening! It all depends on the weather - so at 4:00pm he could tell me he is leaving in three hours or that he can't get out for three more days! It is crazy - and trying to plan anything? Ummm -nope. AND he is (understandably) pretty much spent the day he gets back.
That being said - he does tell me to "go take your "girly novel" to the beach for an hour and have some YOU time" which makes me adore him
: )
OH! And Miss Jellison - what is this hoopla of you moving to Louisiana?! I am so out of the loop! Get your pregnant butt tot he Cape pronto!
I miss you, Karen.
Things are MUCH better for us now, but all last year DH was gone between working and building. I barely saw him while I was pregnant and after I had Caroline he was in more of a rush to get the house done.
Before I was pregnant I worked all hours of the night and weekends so we barely saw each other and it sucked then too but that's the nature of the beast when working emergency work :P
Now, things are good. DH comes home between 5-6 and gets an hour in with kiddo. On the weekends he's working around the house and if I REALLY need a break I can get one. But, that will change if he changes job since he wont be getting home until 7 and DD goes to bed then and he'll be on call all the time. Not as bad as it used to be but not ideal either.