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Would you change your name back?
If you changed your name and you and your H were splitting up, would you change your name back to your maiden name? Why or why not?
Unless H and I had some nasty divorce and I hated his guts, I don't think I would change my name back. It's such a PITA to change your name and I am entirely too lazy. Plus, Zoe and I would still have the same last name. If I got remarried I'd change it to my new husband's last name, but I don't think I'd want to go back and forth....maiden to married, then maiden to married name again.
And, no, H and I are not splitting up, but these are weird thoughts that randomly cross my mind from time to time. 
Re: Would you change your name back?
Like you said, it would depend on the terms of the divorce. If it was amicable then I might keep his name.
My sister said that in her court papers it says she has to change her name back...she hasn't.
You have to take a crap load of documentation; thats why she hasnt done it.
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I am not. My maiden name is not my birth name, so names to me are a bit fluid and hold less weight. Plus, DD and I will have the same last name. In fact, IDK if I would change my name to a new H's name if I ever got remarried. It would truly be at his request and after a long discussion. And perhaps require a massage or mani/pedi since changing your name is such a PITA.
xH is such a dork he asked if I was changing my name back and changing DD's name to my maiden name. Um, no. That's stupid.
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Huh? He wants your DD to have your maiden name? Isn't she his child?
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Yes, she is his child. Lord, is she his child. But he was worried I was going to change it to be vindictive or something. He wants her to have his name and I see no reason to ever change that. Like I said, stupid.
Oh I got it.
I thought he wanted you to change her name to your maiden name.
Doesn't he know that it's pretty effin hard to change your kid's last name without the other parent's consent? It's not like you could have just been like "Hm, I think I'd like DD to have my maiden name," pay the county $20 and *POOF*, her name changes.
I would keep my last name. It's just easier and I never really liked my maiden name anyway. Plus, I think it makes things simpler from a career perspective too.
I'd keep my married name. I would want to have the same name as our children.
I'm not sure - it was such a PITA to change it the first time (heck our 3rd anniversary was this past week, and I still get mail with my maiden name). That said, my maiden name was unique, my married name is quite common.
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Since I am as yet undecided as to whether I would take FI's last name, I am kind of on the fence. I think I am going to hyphenate the girls' last name.
If I did take his name, I would have kept my maiden name anyways,tacked his onto the end and just had 4 names (They should all fit on my DL and if it doesn't then I will just drop my first name...I'm an Ashley, and I loathe my first name!)
If I didn't take his name, I would just have a different name than DDs. My mom has a different name than I do now, and has had a different one since I was in HS.
I also agree it would depend on if the split was amicable or not.
Hmm...I think I'd keep it just because of my kids. That being said I much prefer my maiden name because my married last name is about as common as it gets.
Now with the changes at the DMV you have to have every name you have ever used on it! Mine is going to be rediculous!
I'm on the fence about this. I love my maiden name. When my mom got divorced it was part of the divorce agreement that her name get changed. My sisters and I wanted to change ours, but we all had to wait until we were 18 to change it to my mom's name. It was never a problem with mom having a different last name.
Probably not, but just because of Lily.
Related: my mom has been married and divorced several times. We all used to get junk mail in triplicate or more. I'd get junk mail to Kate LastName, and then 2 or 3 more with several of my mom's last names on it.
My silly Lily is almost 4.
LoL ditto to this.