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New marriage, new sex moves??

My DH and I have been married for 2 months now but we have been together for over 3 years now. All of a sudden my DH has been pulling new sexual moves that he has never done before. I don't think he is cheating since he has never had a big sex drive and I have a healthy sex drive to take care of him but it still makes me curious and worried about where this has come from. Has anyone ever experienced this? Should I talk to him about it or just enjoy it?
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Re: New marriage, new sex moves??

  • Talk to him about it if you are feeling insecure, but I wouldn't start by saying, hey I think you might be cheating, who taught you that... I would try more like, wow, that was great, what made you think to try that?  It's possible he is just excited about being a newly wed, and wanted to ante up in the bed room rather than tanking out after tying the knot. 
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    Talk to him about it if you are feeling insecure, but I wouldn't start by saying, hey I think you might be cheating, who taught you that... I would try more like, wow, that was great, what made you think to try that?  It's possible he is just excited about being a newly wed, and wanted to ante up in the bed room rather than tanking out after tying the knot. 

     

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  • What are the new "moves"?
  • My guess would be that he is trying new moves to make sex more exciting.  Doing the same thing for 3 years can get boring for some.  Also, does he wtach porn?  I know some men see/learn moves that they want to try from movies.
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  • No he doesn't watch porn that is where I am confused on where this came from. It's not big sex moves or anything but I can tell when that it is new
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  • If it feels good I would just stfu and enjoy it and/or compliment him.

    If I didnt enjoy what he was doing I would ask where the heck he was pulling the new moves from.

  • Ha, funny you should ask! Happened last night. I did say "where did you learn that from" but I was trying to not make it sound like "who did you learn that from" and likely tried to hard and/or was awkward about it. He said he didn?t know what I was talking about and I tried to explain it, he said he didn?t know. I tried to move on to a new subject and said it was fun and we should redo it again soon?.he was still sort of weirded out by my question. I wont be bringing that up again right after...it ruins a good moment.
  • Holy paranoid, Batman. Just go with it.
  • I'm surprised my husband hasn't ask me that, we're married and it adds this whole new level of primal possession when I see that ring on his finger.  It could be like that for your guy. That feeling of "Finally", no more twinges of premarital guilt, and wondering why you're spouse is still wearing pants?
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    I'm surprised my husband hasn't ask me that, we're married and it adds this whole new level of primal possession when I see that ring on his finger.  It could be like that for your guy. That feeling of "Finally", no more twinges of premarital guilt, and wondering why you're spouse is still wearing pants?

    Haha! I was wondering if I was the only one who got even more turned on during sex when I see the ring on his finger..it makes me think..that's MY man! Not that he wasn't "mine" before but YKWIM! 

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  • Totally agree with you both on this! And I think he feels the same, sometimes he looks at me and says "How'd I get so lucky? You're my WIFE!" and that is the BEST Big Smile

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  • Porn? Talk with the guys? The HBO TV shows?

     

    If you ask him about it just throw it in a good light, like "wow, that was GOOD/Great, where did that come from?"

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