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SIL vent
I can't vent to DH about this, because he gets mad.
SIL drives me crazy. They live in Tiffin, and she'll call and say we'll be in town, we might stop by. Great...I hang out at home, around 7:30, I text her and ask if she's still stopping over (since it's getting close to bed time for R) and she's like "Oh, no. We're home now, it was getting too late." UGH! SHe's done this about 5 times since K's been born. It drives me crazy. I'll wait at home and not go anywhere because I don't want to miss them.
So, she called on Tuesday morning and wanted to go to the Zoo yesterday. I Had planned to send R to the sitter's on Wednesday, but was able to change days so we could go to the zoo with her and her 3 kids. She said she'd call me back that evening and we'll finalize plans. When she first called, she said it was for "back up plans" because they were going to do something else but it might not workout. I made it pretty clear that I would be changing days with the babysitter and I needed a more definite answer. She said, okay, we'll just do the zoo.
I sent her a text Tuesday night at like 10 saying what time we like to get to the zoo because of their naps. NO response. She FINALLY called me at 9 on Wednesday morning, and was like "what time are we going?" (I had been convinced that she just wasn't going to call or anything and I'd be stuck going to the zoo by myself since R was so excited). I said 10:30..she's like okay, meet you there.
I left my house at like 10:15 and she called while I was putting the kids in the car to tell me that she was just leaving. THey're like an hour from the zoo. I wasn't going to unload the kids, so we just went. They finally got there at like 11:40. R was pretty bored and antsy by that time, but we managed to get in a few more hours with them.
THEN...while we're there, she is making comments about other people, making fun of the overweight, the kids that might look funny...even the little girl with Downs that we saw. She made the comments quietly, but she would say them to her kids (they're 16, 13 and 9). That really bothered me. After she said something to me about the little girl with Downs, I had to say something to her. It really bothered me. She quickly tried to backtrack and make it seem okay. Keep in mind, SIL is not the most in-shape individual.
I'm not perfect, and I know that I judge others at times, but I would never make fun of someone else to my child. What does that teach them?
Somehow, as odd and SIL is, she has the most beautiful children, who are extremely polite and helpful.
Ahh. I feel better.
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