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Combined shower/sprinkle ?

hannikanhannikan
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A friend of mine (my MOH actually) just had her 3rd child and someone in her IL family is throwing a shower/sprinkle for her. But it is a combined celebration for her and her SIL who is having a baby very soon. I have met her SIL once. I've never been to a combined shower like this. Is it expected that you bring a gift for the other mother even though I really don't know her?
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Re: Combined shower/sprinkle ?

  • hersheykisshersheykiss

    I probably would take something small, like a gift bag with some cute bibs and burb cloths. Something that is inexpensive but needed.

    On a personal note, I probably would never throw a combined shower just because people are going to know one or the other person and feel obligated or not comfortable buying gifts for an unknown person. Plus, it also can make the ladies uncomfortable if one person gets more gifts than the other. It just seems weird to me.

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  • hannikanhannikan
    Yeah, I'm sure the close timeline of the births contributed (although MOH had her baby in April). I don't think SIL's baby is her first either. I'm almost positive it's not. I was thinking of maybe doing gift cards since the invitation suggested that (yeah, I know). It's always hard for me to gauge how much to do though.
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    For someone you don't know, I would do $10, 20 if you could afford it comfortably without it requiring you to eat PB&J for a month.
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    Eh, you don't have to do much. I'm tempted to say you don't have to do anything for the woman you don't really know. Maybe buy a pack of diapers? I imagine there's going to be plenty of people there so your gifts will blend in a bit. And if they're having a combined shower, I'm sure they're aware this could get tricky and aren't expecting lots of stuff from people who don't know them. Sounds like the intent is to celebrate, not get gifts.
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  • hannikanhannikan
    imagePassanie:
    I'm sure they're aware this could get tricky and aren't expecting lots of stuff from people who don't know them. Sounds like the intent is to celebrate, not get gifts.
    I hope so but I often think that will be the case but it isn't. I'm thinking bringing a card with a small amount gift card would be the easiest for me. I'm not going to have much time to shop since this wknd is busy, next week will be apt hunting and the shower is next wknd.
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