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How long is too long
We have some friends that will be relocating to Des Moines. We're really excited about this. However, they will be staying with us. I thought they would be staying a week or so to find an apt etc. Then the work "move" in was muttered. Then DH says they're hoping for no longer than 2 months. I'm panicking. I have social anxieties as is, but when it comes to my home and personal space I'm crazy...I'm a cancer what can I say. Talk me away from the edge 
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Re: How long is too long
O.M.G. ...Did you tell DH he'd better get to work on either building them their own zoo in the back yard or finding a hotel for you? lol
I feel so badly for you. That seriously sucks.
First of all, all of those pets would be a deal breaker for me. They need to find a pet sitter if this is the plan.
My advice is to be very up front with expectations before they come. I have had similar situation(s) and it did not work well with my personality. We bought our home in May 2006. My SIL graduated from college in Illinois and found a job here. DH asked if she could live with us until she found an apartment. So she came in July, just a couple of months after moving into our first home together. Well, she decided to buy a home instead, which of course takes longer than finding a place to rent. We were getting married in October, so I wanted her out by then. Things still weren't settled for her to close, so she didn't actually move out until November, after we returned from our honeymoon. I was not happy and it was not the way I wanted to start a marriage or my relationship with my SIL. I should have learned my lesson, but just a month after that our friends were moving back here from Texas. They came in December and didn't leave until April. We pretty much pushed them out the door at that point and haven't really been friends since (some other things factored into that as well, but that's a whole other novel....er...I mean post). However, SIL did help out financially. Our "friends" didn't give us a dime the entire time. I still want to kick myself for letting it go on that long.
Sorry for my long winded response, but if this is going to happen, you guys really need to be candid about everything. Good luck!
Oh my, the amount of animals ruins it for me too. I was thinking I could handle a month but with 2 dogs, 5 puppies, 2 cats and 2 turtles a week would be generous.
Besides, how are they going to find an apartment that will let them keep all of those animals and rent? I could see this causing an issue, and if they are staying in your house they may be there a long time before they find a place to rent that has such a liberal pet policy.
No wonder it will take them 2 months to find a place to live. With this added info, I think your DH must be crazy.
I can speak from personal experience being the ones that moved in with friends until we found a place to live.
My friend was wonderful and looked at probably a half dozen houses for us I found on CL before we moved. She narrowed it down for us (I trusted her judgement). We ended up staying with them for a week until the moving company got our stuff out here. We had our own bedroom and bathroom and they have a fairly large house with plenty of space. Even at the week mark, it was getting to the point of ok, we need to move out and get our own space.
2 months is WAY TOO LONG IMO. You need to talk with your H and make a united stand of expectations. GL!