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Just curious - moms/moms-to-be
I was thinking at 3am this morning while I was up and I was wondering...
Am I the only one that is not going to even attempt breastfeeding and go straight to formula?
Am I the only one that is not going to even attempt breastfeeding and go straight to formula?
Re: Just curious - moms/moms-to-be
I never was going to, and to be honest my initial motivator was saving $$$. I also didn't plan on nursing until very recently when I found more info supporting that it could lead to a big fat fail to immediately start pumping.
I always knew I wanted to breastfeed my children. The only way I would do formula is to supplement, or if there were other complications that meant I couldn't successfully breastfeed.
For me, there's too many pro's associated with BFing not to at least attempt it. Helps lose weight, bonding with baby, always the right temperature (so I dont have to prepare a bottle for 1am feedings), etc. The big one for me is that it decreases your chance of breast cancer.
Formula will cover all the nutrients for little ones, so if that's what your choosing, don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. (as I've seen many people on the bump try to do) It's a perfect alternative. Talk to Kelly, I know she was BFing but had to stop and is now FF, so she should be able to talk about that aspect of it.
I wanted to say something else, but I honestly can't remember what it is.
I'm a breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, anti-CIO Mommy
Raising Bean
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Not a mom, not pregnant.
But my plan is to only BF for the first 6-8 weeks while I'm home and honestly will probably do both milk and formula after the first couple weeks.
My reasoning is 2 fold. First the bewbies are mine and yes I know it's a great bonding experience, but it's not my thing. Second, pumping at work unless we move to a better building is going to be a PITA. I will either have to hunt down an open conference room or pump in my car and neither sound appealing. I know that sounds like a bad excuse, but even though they can't make you pump in the bathroom, I don't think they'll do much except make a coat closet accessible to me.
Friends of our FF from the get go and their little one has been happy and healthy and she's 13 months now. Do what's best for you and your family.
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I'm not worried about anyone making me feel bad about it. I am very physically uncomfortable with the idea of me BFing. I have no issues with anyone else doing it, it's just me I have a problem with doing it. I was FF, a couple of my cousins were FF, all 5 of my nieces and nephews were FF, a few of my cousins' kids were FF. Those of us that were FF actually have less health issues than those that were BF in my family which seems opposite of all the studies.
I was raised in a FF house and my sister FF her two kids. She said that the reason why she did with the first was because her milk never came in, and by the time the second came along they were just soo used to doing things with the bottle they didn't even try.
I plan on BFing, but I am totally skeeved out by it. I know I shouldn't be and it is the way God/nature intended, but for me, I associate a great deal of my sexuality with my breasts, so handing them over to a little baby seems kind of pervy to me. I know it shouldn't but it does. It is something that I am going to have to struggle with, but for me I want to do it for all the health reasons Mar talked about, not to mention the cost savings.
If BF isn't for you, then it isn't for you. Do what is right for you and your baby.
This is a huge part of it for me.
Not preg, not a mom.
I would love to BF, however, i'm not sure if I will be physically able to. I have a lot of scar tissue and a tube that runs through my right breast for a medical condition. I don't know if that is going to hinder my ability to BF, or if it will be too uncomfortable when my breasts are engorged. As my breasts have grown with weight gain it has become mroe obvious (to me at least) where the tube is and you can see a "line/dent" in my breast.
So as preg. and BF get closer it will be something I will be discussing it with my Dr. But it may not be an option for me, and I'm ok with that. I know that FF will be just as fine, and it will allow DH to help more with the feedings in the early days as well.
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*Shell* this is pretty much the root of me not really wanting to.
I get embarrassed when they show bewbies on tv/movies. And I feel super awkward when I see other people BFing. That being said, I thought I would feel weird about BFing DD because I do consider breasts a sexual part of the body, but I never have. The only people I am comfortable Bfing in front of are Dh and my sibling (I think that's because e doesn't associate with one gender or another? I dunno why I'm ok with it around em, but I am.) But I never felt weird about feeding DD through my ta-ta.
I'm a breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, anti-CIO Mommy
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I couldn't agree with Alicia more about the bewbs and the sexual aspect of them. I thought I would struggle with this, but I actually didn't when I started breastfeeding. Even during labor I was still thinking that my bewbs are a sexual thing, not for babies, but as soon as she latched on, it totally went away. I wish I could of BF longer but unfortunately my supply ran out.
My BFF didn't want to BF at all and formula fed from the start, there's nothing wrong with it. She didn't even try to BF, she knew it wasn't something for her.
I have to say though after I was done BF, I'm still really uncomfy with my bewbs and sexy time, I feel the total opposite now about them and feel they are for babies and not the hubs, lol, a little TMI, but I'm sure I'm not the only one who has felt this way.
I am a little concerned about this as well since Nick is a boob guy...
I've never really felt that sexual about my boobs, maybe b/c they've never really been anything to write home about? I didn't think about BF/FF until we got married started thinking about about TTC. Then I knew I'd give it a whirl and if it worked for us it did and if not, it didn't. Now that I'm done, I feel just like I did before about them, nothing has changed for me.
I was FF and am practically perfect in every way so I am not at all against it. I liked the not having to make/clean/remember bottles and the cost (none).
Do you have a carpet bag that holds all your stuff too?!?!?! (I seriously hope someone gets the reference!)
I knew that I was going to have to go to formula with Duncan because of my medication I take, but I wanted to try... ended up pumping more that BF because he didn't have a real good latch. But three weeks later and 4 anxiety attacks I knew I had to go back on my meds..,.so Dunc became a formula fed baby.
My sister FF all 4 of her boys straight from the beginning. She knew she had to go back to work so she didn't even want to try.
You are not alone!
I got it... where's the tape measurer to prove it Mary Poppins?
OMG this is driving me nuts but I am trying not to google.
I think Kate mentioned the movie name above... it's Mary Poppins.
I am totally freaked out by BF, out in public it makes me crazy to see people do it. I know it's horrible that I think of it that way. With that being said I did BF Bella for the first 7 weeks, then my supply tanked when I went back to work. When we would go to either of our families houses, I would go to the bed room to feed her, it made me uncomfortable to sit with other people while feeding her and I didn't want to make them feel uncomfortable.
Seriously, I can not even begin to tell you the emotions that welled up the first time she latched on. Total full on cry fest. It was a bonding experience unlike anything I could have ever imagined. She kept her focus on my eyes and never looked away, ugh it still melts my heart to think about it. I was sad that I couldn't have continued longer, but imo FF provides the nutrients to grow a strong, healthy baby. And there is nothing wrong with that! If BF is not for you that's ok!
well of course
i fully intended to breastfeed, although i knew it may be a challenge because when i was younger i had a breast lift and implants put in. I got excited when she latched on right away in the hospital and things seemed to be going pretty well. By the time we left the hospital though, she had lost 10% of her birth weight, and they encouraged us to supplement with formula (BF first, then top off with formula). Anyway, when we got home and my milk came in, my boobs were enormous and she couldn't latch on at all. Then i came down with mastitis (infected breast tissue) and it was really painful. My OB said that women with implants are more prone to mastitis, and that i would most likely battle with it on and off for as long as i was BFing. My milk production was also really low, so with my OB, i made the decision to stop BFing. my OB said it wasn't worth putting my body through more infections to produce such little milk. i was really upset, but now we are doing all formula, and Laine seems just as happy as she was when she was BFing. I would really encourage you to give it a shot, because it was a really incredible experience, even if you only do it for the first couple days, but definitely don't feel bad about FF.
not sure if u really needed the whole story, just thought i'd throw it out there lol
It never crossed my mind not to BF with Xander, but when he wasn't latching on I sent my mom to the store to get us formula. I did try for the first two weeks, but Xander and I were miserable. I might try again next time around, but I won't feel horrible guilt if it doesn't work again.
If you do FF I suggest serving the bottles at room temperature or cold if you little guy likes it that way. Those midnight feedings are easier when you don't have to warm a bottle up.
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11.25.09
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i refused to have expectations because i saw my sister struggle and she was disappointed in herself for so long for having supplement. i knew from the start that i wasn't going to allow myself get like that so i was going to attempt it. if it worked out for us, great. if it didn't, oh well.
my mom is a nurse and we were all ff so it wasn't 'forced' upon us to even make the effort, it was just something that was important for us to try.
i believe in a pp about this i explained my issue with my breasts and how they have always been huge so breastfeeding always seemed 'wrong' since they were sexualized (as others have also admitted to).
i am shocked to this day that i am still ebf. it has been the hardest, most selfless thing i have ever done in my life. for me, there is nothing natural or convenient about it. i never felt comfortable nursing in public and would even schedule my day in 2.5 hr shifts so i could run home and nurse her if we were out. i never felt comfortable doing it even in my car.
bf'ing consumed my life because it never felt 'natural' and i was always so neurotic about my supply (even though i've never really had any issues). z was also a long nurser so it was literally draining and exhausting.
i gave myself small goals in order to get through it and 9.5 months later, we are still going strong.
the irony is that in my mind i always thought i would quit nursing around 6 months and strictly pump but around the 5-6 months mark is when she became an efficient nurser and it became super easy. these days it requires so much more effort to give her a bottle because then i have to pump to replace that feeding. and i am so over pumping let me tell ya.
i have no idea how i will ever bf a 2nd child since bf'ing requires A LOT of work but again, i refuse to stress about it. if it works, it works, if it doesn't, it doesn't.
in retrospect i do think i would have had less stress if i at least supplemented because i let it affect me way too much where i was always worried about having to feed her in public. not to mention if i did bring a bottle, i was always scoping out where i could heat it up.
these days i much more relaxed because she nurses in like 5-10 mins and because she also eats solids, she can go a lot longer.
i am happy i stuck through it, it has been the hardest work i've ever done. however, i am not sure i feel i 'bond' with her better because i nurse her. i think that a bond is created deeper than that. her and i have a special bond because i am her mom. she looks at me for comfort and her bond with her dad is more playful. not that she doesn't get comfort from him and that i don't play with her, but it's been clear from the start what she seeked from us individually.
Zoey Emma 08.18.10
I pretty much exactly the same as what I've quoted from Jess's post here. I almost could have written all these things myself (with the "she" to "he" lol).
One of the several reasons I don't want a second child is because I would probably feel guily not BF the second when I did the first but I just don't know if I can do it again.
Jess, I've said this before but when you kick the pump you'll feel so freeeeee!
Zoey Emma 08.18.10
Ha! Nick used to say the same thing. I really do feel like I have way more time at work.
ugh we laugh about this everyday! if i don't get to pump before i get to work then i pump right when i get there. i always have a lot of milk in the am so if i pump an hr after i feed her, i can still usually get a whole bottle out of one session. i pump again at 11, and 2 (approx. sometimes 12 & 3) and i swear i feel like the day flies by because everytime i turn around it's to effin pump again. it's so damn annoying.
Zoey Emma 08.18.10
For those worred about the second child and BFing. I was BF as a child. My sister was only 4lbs so she was BF and FF to help her gain weight.
I am normal (well, normal enough). My sister is BSC and has been to prison.
You decide!
And please understand that was meant to be totally humorous and not all an actual account of what might happen in the BF and FF discussion!
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