Family Matters
CatGal
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Vent: nearly estranged family members
I'm nearly estranged from my family and I'm obsessing about this because he'll probably tell me to be nice and put the passed behind me. That in itself is amusing because I'm always the the one that "does" stuff, they never take responsibility for their own actions.
*I'm a basket case*
I may DD this later...
ETA: I removed some content
Re: Vent: nearly estranged family members
BUT - it sounds like you've dealt w/ this before, and you'll probably always have someone thinking its on you to "give in". So why is this freaking you out? It sounds like it's a shock, and I"m not sure why.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
BUT - it sounds like you've dealt w/ this before, and you'll probably always have someone thinking its on you to "give in". So why is this freaking you out? It sounds like it's a shock, and I"m not sure why.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
We have no relationship. There's no reason for him to "announce" that he's going to call unless he wants something from me (which is part of the reason we are mostly estranged).
Yes, my family still has a strange hold on me - one reason I stay away and have extremely low contact with them. Both he and mother are narcissists with mother being the neglecting kind, brother being the golden child. But that's a story for another post.
I"m wondering the same thing. Don't get me wrong - I'm sure this is an overall hard situation.BUT - it sounds like you've dealt w/ this before, and you'll probably always have someone thinking its on you to "give in". So why is this freaking you out? It sounds like it's a shock, and I"m not sure why.
ECB: You're right. I'm not sure either. Except that my life without them has been so much nicer, calmer and all around drama-free. He "needs an ear" - never in his life has he considered me more than an ingrate, and so to give him "an ear to hear him out", I'm wondering "what do they want from me to do now" or "what did I do now?" There's a lot of lying and dishonesty and a lot of it has been directed at me. It's put me on the defensive a lot, even if I didn't do anything.
Thank you for the suggestions. I always forget that I have options like this.
I'm sorry.
Just remember that you don't have to do anything that you don't want to do. If you're not comfortable talking to/meeting up with him, then say no.
Then he doesn't get "an ear" from you. Sorry. He's proven that he's abused that privledge in the past and there is no evidence to assume he won't do it righ tnow. So, no, you don't get my time and attention.
Does that make you a horrible-ungrateful-b!tchonwheels- who'sruining-and-abandoning the family?
Yup.
Oh, well. Sucks for him.
Yep, this!
74 books read in 2011
WIth your update, either ignore his email or just say "Sorry, I don't have time"! You owe him nothing.
Good luck.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10