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So I caught it!
Baby fever. I caught baby fever. Me... Miss never wants to have kids.. caught baby fever.
I found out this week that 2 of my very close friends are pregnant. Then a couple of family members on both sides are too. Also a few other good friends.
It seems to be something in the water. And now I want a piece of it.
I usually go to my MOH's house every time I think about having kids. They are usually good birth control. But I left their house wanting to have kids even more. Eek!
Now I just need to see how to convince DH.
Any thoughts?
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Re: So I caught it!
I'd give it some time and really think it over if you've always been set on not having kids. People being pregnant or talking about babies is exciting, just like wedding talk/getting married is exciting, but that doesn't mean everyone should run out and get married just because they've been to a few good weddings lately, ya know? I'd really think about it for a while since you've been 'anti-baby' for a while.
PS, I'm not telling you not to have kids, I am just saying it's a giant decision and if you've questioned it before you might question it again.
THIS!
I totally agree with Xan. Having children is a huge commitment and although it's exciting to hear other people talk about, parenting is not for everyone. It's not like a hobby that you can try out and stop doing if you don't like it, ya know?
Before Chavis, I never seriously considered having children. Now that we are in love, I cannot imagine NOT having his children. I feel very strongly like it is my purpose in life to be a mother and have a big family.
I say be excited for your friends and babysit often to see if it is something you can see you and your hubby doing full time.
est. 10/10/10
Before Brandon I never wanted to get married. So I guess before him I never wanted kids either. I guess just being with him makes me want to do more in life.
I def want to think about it before doing it. But I can't think about it on my own.
So I guess what I was really asking is how to I talk to him about it and get him to consider it more. Than just saying no no no everytime I try to bring it up.
Thanks for advice thus far ladies! I love you all!
What is his reasoning for not wanting to have kids?
I think that I would start by just sitting down and saying, "I know that you don't want to have kids because of ________ but, I think that we will regret not having children someday." If you know that you are not financially ready at this time I would say that also, "I know we aren't financially ready for it now, but if we save $X per month for the next year we will be able to support a child."
Give him a time line, don't say that you want to start tomorrow that will freak him out. Also, try not to get over excited, I think that makes guys really nervous also, when we are SSOOO excited about something it is overwhelming.