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Its all about him...
We have been married for 2 years (together 10 years total). Sex was good before we got married. The foreplay was amazing!! I thought once we got married our sex life would explode, but it didn't. We have sex maybe once a month, if that. Any time I try to initiate sex, he ignore me. I could walk around naked and he wouldn't notice. However, everytime he wants to have sex I am suppose to be in the mood. There's no foreplay anymore on my end, but he expects me to give him certain things. Plus, I haven't had an orgasm in months because the positions benefit him more than me...
Any Advice/
Re: Its all about him...
Have you asked him to accomodate you on the positions problem? You can also take the matters into your own hand --- maneuver him into the position you want and then have at it.:)
You need to talk to him --- there are about 5 or 6 posts ont his board, all similar to yours and the thing that I stress the most is COMMUNICATION.
Does he know you want other positions? If not, make sure you let him know.
You also need to sit down and speak with him frankly about the lack of sex. You need to make sure you tell him that you'd like sex more often -- he's not a mind reader and you shuldn't be suffering in silence. He may indeed think things are fine the way they are which is why communication is key.
You say you have been married for two years, but did not mention if this recently began, or has been going on for a while. Also, have there been any major changes like with money issues, job issues, added stress, etc.? I would sit him down and have a talk with him, but do not automatically let him think its all him... tell him how you feel & what you would like. Good luck!
Have you spoken with him about this? I have had issues with the whole position thing, but it always worked out that I went first anyway, so we switched and that allowed full attention on his needs after I got mine.
Talk talk talk talk talk. Don't continue to submit to sex that doesn't satisfy you. The more you reward this habit of letting him get what he wants 100% of the time while not making him accountable for satisfying you, the less likely this issue is of getting resolved.
You're responsible for your own happiness. Don't just twiddle your thumbs and wait for him to read your mind--it won't help to just cut him off and not tell him why. Tell him you're unsatisfied. Tell him you want a, b and c. Maybe you should have a session or two with a sex therapist? They could take a microscope to you and suggest specific activities that would work especially well for your relationship dynamic.