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is this normal? or bad?

when my h and i have sex, i am lost in the moment and all is well. but when i am on my own, i definitely fantasize about other people... some fictional, some real. is this bad, or normal, or not a big deal... i am on my phone and can not capitolize or use the question mark.  

IUI - BFP! Baby boy born still - August 2012
IVF - BFP - miscarriage June 2013
FET - BFN
FET - BFN
Switched clinics
IVF with PGD - three embryos created, all healthy - July 2014
FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
Baby Boy born July 2015

Re: is this normal? or bad?

  • Is this an all-the-time thing?  I think this is probably normal to some extent, but if it starts interfering with sex when you're with your husband, then it becomes a problem.
  • This is actually normal. Many women have fantasies of other people. When is it not normal? When you act on these fantasies and actually are more into the fantasy than your spouse. Then, we can talk counseling but other than that you are fine. Fantasies are healthy.
  • Sounds normal to me.;
  • I think its normal. Enjoy your fantasies! As others have said, it crosses the line when you start acting on the fantasies. When they start to interfere with your RL sex life then it can be a problem.
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  • Normal and fine.

    We don't control what turns us on, we only control what we do. It's all in your head, it's not doing any harm. Cut yourself some slack.

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