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This made me curious....

So I was reading the thread from yesterday where everyone answered the question "What do you regret most in the last 5 years?" and a good number of people responded with something relating to not finishing college, their masters, or not going to school for their ideal career.

The majority of us are very young, 20's and 30's. So, I'm just curious, why do so many of you feel as if it's too late to still do those things?

Half trying to start some chatter on the board, but half just honestly curious.

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  • Well you guys know where I stand as its the cause of some of my recent stress and I will definitely be going back in the spring to start for the first time.  Matt is already enrolled in the fall session to go back and finish.

    For my regret yesterday it was that Matt had finished before he moved to NE.  I kind of put down an ultimatum because I just couldnt do long distance any more.  His parents were paying for his education and would have continued had he not moved so that is why I wish I could have held out. 

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    Well you guys know where I stand as its the cause of some of my recent stress and I will definitely be going back in the spring to start for the first time.  Matt is already enrolled in the fall session to go back and finish.

    For my regret yesterday it was that Matt had finished before he moved to NE.  I kind of put down an ultimatum because I just couldnt do long distance any more.  His parents were paying for his education and would have continued had he not moved so that is why I wish I could have held out. 

    You're in the process of going back, you don't count. ;). Hahaha.

    I guess the way I read a lot of them was more like "It's too late, I'm never going to be able to do it now." and I was just curious why people felt that way.

    It's never too late to follow your dreams.

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    imagebobbileighb:

    Well you guys know where I stand as its the cause of some of my recent stress and I will definitely be going back in the spring to start for the first time.  Matt is already enrolled in the fall session to go back and finish.

    For my regret yesterday it was that Matt had finished before he moved to NE.  I kind of put down an ultimatum because I just couldnt do long distance any more.  His parents were paying for his education and would have continued had he not moved so that is why I wish I could have held out. 

    You're in the process of going back, you don't count. ;). Hahaha.

    I guess the way I read a lot of them was more like "It's too late, I'm never going to be able to do it now." and I was just curious why people felt that way.

    It's never too late to follow your dreams.

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  • I'm in school right now to finish my degree.  I'm not saying it's too late but things were much easier when I could concentrate 100% of my time and energy on school rather than F/T work and family.  My regret yesterday was that I wish I had finished my degree sooner.  I'm still working on finishing my degree, I jsut regret that I didn't do it when I had the oppurtunity and the time to finish.  Now it will take me a few years.  I've already been at it 10 years and it looks like it could take 3-5 more till I get my degree.
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    imageSummerof09:
    imagebobbileighb:

    Well you guys know where I stand as its the cause of some of my recent stress and I will definitely be going back in the spring to start for the first time.  Matt is already enrolled in the fall session to go back and finish.

    For my regret yesterday it was that Matt had finished before he moved to NE.  I kind of put down an ultimatum because I just couldnt do long distance any more.  His parents were paying for his education and would have continued had he not moved so that is why I wish I could have held out. 

    You're in the process of going back, you don't count. ;). Hahaha.

    I guess the way I read a lot of them was more like "It's too late, I'm never going to be able to do it now." and I was just curious why people felt that way.

    It's never too late to follow your dreams.

    Summer for President!

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  • imagebsn1752:
    imageSummerof09:
    imagebobbileighb:

    Well you guys know where I stand as its the cause of some of my recent stress and I will definitely be going back in the spring to start for the first time.  Matt is already enrolled in the fall session to go back and finish.

    For my regret yesterday it was that Matt had finished before he moved to NE.  I kind of put down an ultimatum because I just couldnt do long distance any more.  His parents were paying for his education and would have continued had he not moved so that is why I wish I could have held out. 

    You're in the process of going back, you don't count. ;). Hahaha.

    I guess the way I read a lot of them was more like "It's too late, I'm never going to be able to do it now." and I was just curious why people felt that way.

    It's never too late to follow your dreams.

    Summer for President!

    Oh hush! I believe it, so sue me.

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  • I don't really have any plans to go back for my masters, but I am amazed by the people that can work full time and do 2-3 classes a semester.  DH does it and I have no clue how he has the time to actually sleep (granted his work is in retail so he's able to have off on Tuesday and Thursday for class and work on Saturday and Sundays).

    I don't think it's too late, but I do think it was a lot easier for me to do college when I did because it was the only thing I was worried about...not bills and rent. 

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    I don't really have any plans to go back for my masters, but I am amazed by the people that can work full time and do 2-3 classes a semester.  DH does it and I have no clue how he has the time to actually sleep (granted his work is in retail so he's able to have off on Tuesday and Thursday for class and work on Saturday and Sundays).

    I don't think it's too late, but I do think it was a lot easier for me to do college when I did because it was the only thing I was worried about...not bills and rent. 

    When I finish nursing school DH is going for his masters while working full time. It'll be hard, because at that point we will be moving on with our lives, (I.e. buying a house, having a baby, etc) but I still think it's attainable and am proud that he plans to do it!

    I give props to everyone doing it while working full time.

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  • I am now geographically in a position where it would be fairly easy for me to go back for my masters.  Right now, I'm just thinking about it but it may get real in a year.
  • It really is never too late.  My Dad was layed off from his 25 year management position when I was graduating high school. He was able to take his lifelong hobby in aviation and turn it into a career that makes him 10x happier than he ever was.....and he was in his 50's when he did it!
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    It really is never too late.  My Dad was layed off from his 25 year management position when I was graduating high school. He was able to take his lifelong hobby in aviation and turn it into a career that makes him 10x happier than he ever was.....and he was in his 50's when he did it!

    just curious, what was his hobby (pilot, interest, etc?)?  and what is he doing now?

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  • He is a private pilot and had his own small plane at one point.  He also has an A&P license to work on planes as well.

    He is now a flight instructor for a major airline and loves it. 

  • imagellc2011:

    I don't think it's too late, but I do think it was a lot easier for me to do college when I did because it was the only thing I was worried about...not bills and rent. 

    I didn't really enjoy my undergrad because I had the bills and rent to worry about so I wanted out fast when in reality, I should have taken the extra time.  I had to get private loans for school and I hated having that looming debt over my head even though I have always been paying towards it since I got the loans.  So my philosophy was to get my UG then go to UTA (they are the only ones that do Social Work in this area) for grad school later on.  Well here we are, "later on" and we have a mortgage to worry about, we share a car and I just do not see myself being able to manage work and driving to Arlington.  Even though students loans are "good" for you, I always wanted to have my UG loans done and even money for grad school saved so we wouldn't have more loans.  I hate owing people money.

  • imagellc2011:
    I don't really have any plans to go back for my masters, but I am amazed by the people that can work full time and do 2-3 classes a semester.  DH does it and I have no clue how he has the time to actually sleep.

    This is me. I have no current plans to get a graduate degree, but my DH is pursuing an advanced (technical) degree right now. Last semester, he had three 3 classes AND his usually-demanding full/time job was even more so than usual. He literally didn't sleep more than 2-3 hours a night for the first two months of the semester.

    He eventually got a better balance on things, but he still had to do homework during our honeymoon. :(

  • I definitely see where you are coming from.  For me, when I was in school and working full time it was very difficult for me to do both.  Major props to those of you that do do it.  I would want to put all of my focus into school and, financially, I can't do that.  I'm not saying I will never do it, but definitley not in a place where I can do it right now.

  • For me, it's less about the financial fears of going back to school for something else (although those are real too), it's more that I am semi-comfortable in what I do, even though I don't love it... I'm so afraid of change, and I stick to my routines like my life literally depends on it.  Also, I'm afraid that I'll make a change to something else, and not love it either... partly because I just don't really know what I want to do.  I literally chose my career by going through the alphabet and thinking about different jobs with each letter.  I promise I went through the whole alphabet before settling on "accountant" - I didn't just get lazy and stop with A!
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