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Baby Shower Advice
Hey ladies! So I work for a pretty small company. There are only about 30 people in my building and although we know who everyone is there are a bunch of people that I've never really spoken to (maybe just a "hi" when I pass by them"). So a girl that I've barely ever talked with from another department is pregnant and her department is throwing a surprise whole-building baby shower for her and everyone has to go. We do a birthday celebration every month for that months' birthdays and everyone has to go to that so I know I can't just sit at my desk instead of going to this shower. My big question is, do I have to get my co-worker a gift? I wouldn't have a problem getting her anything if money wasn't so tight for my husband and I right now. Even a small thing might be unmanageable right now. I don't want to be the only person to not get her something and there aren't any gifts that I can go in on with anyone else. I feel bad, but I also feel like I've been put in a bad position. What do you all think I should do? Would just a card be rude? Thanks!!!
Re: Baby Shower Advice
Ric, I understand money being super tight, so listen: please please please don't feel like you must get this girl something.
DH works for a major Fortune 500 company, but departments are pretty much their own entities, so he works with about 30-ish people and half he doesn't ever speak to because there's no need for interaction. While they never have forced birthday/wedding/baby showers, DH still goes to the parties. But we only give gifts if the coworker is one that he has daily interactions with. The rest of the time, we either sign a card or give nothing at all and feel no shame.
Just thinking back to our wedding, we received cards (no money/gifts attached) from the far outreaches of DH's extended family. And that was perfectly okay, since we don't know those people well.
Do the creep.
Agreed! This was the first thing that popped into my mind as I was reading your OP...we do this a tonne where I work...I was invited to a shower back in March which sort of felt like the same thing...I barely know her/chat with her superficially. But I just added some cash (what I could) to the 'kittie' and then we were able to get her some nice gifts from her registry...a little from a lot of people can go a long way!
Good luck! Sounds like you might need it to get through the event!