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I need some help....
.... writing the MOH speech for SIL's wedding on the 18th. I am at a complete loss.
As a recap, she asked me to be the MOH only after the girl she really wanted said no. She and I only really started being "friends"/hanging out after our wedding. For the past 2 years, whenever we're together and talk about her FI, ALL she does/has done is tell me really really awful things he has said/done. There are many many people who will be in attendance at this wedding who do not think it should even be happening... and I am def one of them.
I have no heartwarming or funny stories to tell about them as a couple, all the stories involve bad things about FI or their drunken fights I've witness while out with them. Although I've known SIL for 8+yrs, I have no cute stories to tell about us as friends or anything.... we're really not that close.
CB drafted a really generic speech to help me get started - just generic advice abt marriage, generic jokes, etc. It is bad but it's just so... generic. I don't know what else to do though...
There probably isn't much anyone can do to help, now that I'm reading over this. Maybe this is more of a vent post.... but anything you can think of or advice you can give will be appreciated.
I can't wait til this is over.
Re: I need some help....
truthfully, in this case, generic is probably best.
you dont want to get up there and lie but you also dont want to outwardly express your disapproval. i think generic is a good middle ground.
I agree. I'd just talk about how nice it was to become closer after your wedding and how special you feel to be a part of her family, and add all the generic marriage stuff.
I had a similar issue with writing a toast for my best friend's engagement party. Luckily for me, they broke up. Now, I'm going face the issue of trying not to be snarky about things when she marries best man.
Stand up for something you believe in.
Watch Wedding Crashers and rip off the speech that Owen Wilson tells Rachel McAdams to say.
Not really. but I do agree that generic is best, maybe toss in a quote or a bible verse if they're religious. call it good.