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I'm a terrible sister
So my brother dropped the we're pregnant bomb on me today. yes the brother that just got married. I pretended to be happy congratulated him, texted his wife the same.
I'm not happy at all. I'm heartbroken. I'm angry (not at them at the situation). I feel like a horrible sister, but I can't help how I feel.
No real point to this post, but I just needed to vent.
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Re: I'm a terrible sister
It doesn't make you a terrible sister. You can't help how you feel.
You're not a terrible person for having these feelings, Mo. You can't help that things have been really sucky for you anymore than your brother can help his wife being pregnant. It's not your fault, it's not his fault, it's not anyone's fault.
I don't think being angry that life isn't fair makes you a bad sister. 'Cause really, we all know what an amazing heart you have.
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You're definitely not a terrible person or sister. You're amazing! Sorry to hear you're feeling sad, though.
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I couldn't say it any better!
This. You are one of the strongest women I know. I'm sure you're brother wasn't trying to hurt you. We love you and are here for you.
This. You are a wonderful person. Big hugs.
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All of this. You are amazing MO and a GREAT sister. You have EVERY right to feel the way you do.
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
I just thought of this Mo... would it help to try to differentiate between not being happy for them and being sad for yourself? Because, there's a difference, and I think it's an important one.
The former would have your feelings stemming from the fact that you'd want those around you to feel what you've felt. And I know you wouldn't want anyone to suffer the same losses you have. You're far too good a person for that.
The latter means that your feelings are coming from a place of mourning for what you haven't been able to have yet. There's nothing malicious there.You're not wishing ill on others just because you're not over the moon. It's okay to be sad for yourself.
I think what really shows your character is that you put on a brave face and acted happy - that's love for your family right there. And that's what I mean when I say you have a good heart. So, don't beat yourself up over feeling the way you do.
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MO, ditto to everything kaesha said in both of her posts. We're designed to feel everything times a million--and that's okay. It's no one's fault, and any emotionally healthy human being who walked in your shoes would feel what you're feeling today. You're not a bad sister at all. I'd say you're a great one for letting them know you're there for them even as you're hurting. Hugs to you!
Thanks Kaesha. This makes me feel better. No wonder that student kept coming to you
Kaesha said this perfectly. You're not a bad sister. You have every right to be furious at the universe. I am sure once you take some time to process this news that you will be able to be genuinely happy for them. In the meantime, vent away here, because we all love you.
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kaesha has such a way with words. I think both of her posts say it perfectly. I think that your feelings are perfectly normal after what you have been through this year. ((hugs))
I just hate to see you feel badly about yourself when you shouldn't!
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This says it perfectly. You need to take it easy on yourself (way easier said than done I know) but you are a wonderful person and I know that your brother and SIL know this. You are allowed to be happy for them but still feel sad about the things that have happened to you. You have a right to feel your own feelings.