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It's Wednesday!
Lets roll with the updates.
Questions of the day. . .
Homeschool, Public School, Charter, Other?
Will/would you adopt?
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Good old fashion public school. We might consider private, just depends on where we are when the kids are at that age.
IWe would adopt but as a last option. And only because I really want to be pregnant. If my body won't allow that then we'll definitely look into it.
I'd like to do private, preferably an artsy school. However that depends greatly on cost, our location, and if the child is in fact interested in the arts.
Julie and I would very much like to adopt. Neither of us are really into being pregnant at this point, and it is very likely that we never will be. So adopting is the best option for us. However, we are both still young so that may change.
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Public school for us, but I would have our kids go to the district I teach in (a benni of teaching here) since it is one of the best districts in the state and very liberal. I don't think we could ever afford to live here (ok I know we would never be able to live here) but at least when we buy a house we have more options because we don't have to take schools into consideration.
It is not on the table yet. If neither of us can't have a baby then we will consider it. Let's hope we don't have to go there. My best friend is adopted from Korea so I have no oposition to it, just not my first choice.
As for us on the baby front I am not in but not yet completly out. It is not looking good. Period is due today and a neg. pregnancy test this morning. For more info check out the blog.
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School is a sensitive topic for us. Ideally, we could do private. We like that the classes are smaller, teaching methodologies can be tailored to kids to meet their needs, and more funding for the arts (music/theater/visual.) But unfortunately around here most private schools cost about $15k-25k/year. Multiply that times 2 kids and it is really difficult.
The school district we are in is not good - our feeder school for our neighborhood is a poor performer. We'll be looking to move before the kids start kindergarten. Right now we don't know if we'll move somewhere else in Maryland (with a better school district) or move out of state.
We are already (!) starting to look at preschools. We are choosing a co-op preschool because 1) it is less expensive than traditional preschools and since we'll have to continue to employee our nanny also (preschool is 3 hours 3 days a week) that is an issue and 2) we really love the aspect of family envolvement in the school (each family volunteers in the classroom 2-3x/month and holds a leadership position in the school. We really like that community aspect. I can't believe we are going to 2 open houses this month!
Our nanny has her Masters in Montessori education and is implementing a lot of the activities/learning principals into her work with the kids. They have a "work session" every morning for 1-2 hours in which they do Montessori based activities before heading outside to play or having "free" play in our playroom. The kids love it! We'd love to do Montessori preschool - but once again $$$.
L would LOVE to homeschool - and she would be FABULOUS at it (she has a bachelors in education and taught for several years and is very into different learning styles.) Unfortunately, she is the primary breadwinner in our family and we can't live on my salary. I would be a horrible home school teacher.
We would definitely have adopted if we couldn't get pregnant. We talked a lot about it and would have been open to a child of any race/ethnic background. We were still deciding on how medically complex we were willing to accept - now we don't have to. We are done.
Public school for us - when we were house hunting we limited our search to towns with good school systems. Better yet, CT is hopping on the magnet school bandwagon in a big way. After doing my master's research in this field, i'm a big proponent of the movement and hope to get our kids into magnet schools by middle school.
We will absolutely adopt if a foster child who is available for adoption and is the right fit for our family comes our way.
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Wow, Wednesday already! No updates here except that we made great progress on the guest bedroom this past weekend. All the wainscoting is up and painted, plus all the trim is painted! It looks awesome. Otherwise, I'm just hanging out waiting for my period to end so we can get on with this cycle!
I loved reading all your schooling opinions. Right now we're not in a great school district (not bad, just not great), but we are right across the street from a Montessori school... so we would be interested in doing that for a few years depending on the cost. We do plan on moving before or around the time that our kids would be school aged, so we'd definitely be paying close attention to what district we are moving into. We're both public school kids ourselves, but I would look into a magnet or charter school if we ended up near them and thought our kids would benefit more from that. The biggest thing really is cost, we can't afford a college level tuition for our 6 year old.
As for adoption... I really want to carry. I always have. So (knock on wood, unless there is a medical reason) I'm going to do that first, and probably for the second also... unless my first pregnancy is very hard/miserable. After that, if we find ourselves with the urge for another, we would definitely consider adoption. I guess it just depends on a lot of variables we can't define at the moment... but it isn't off our radar.
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Most likely public school, but we're open to other options depending on quality, location and cost. There are a lot of "independent" (read private) schools here, and some that offer scholarships that would cover the majority of tuition. C went to (Christian) private school so it would have to be an amazing quality education without a religious tie, very liberal and not cost an arm and a leg. There are also public alternative schools, both elementary and k-12, that we would look into if they fit other criteria. In Seattle we have the option of sending our kids to pretty much any school in the city, so the big issue would be location/transportation. For preschool I love the idea of a co-op and that's definitely a top choice. Also some of the preschools around here are crazy hard to get into and have 2 year waiting lists. LOL.
On the adoption topic, we want two biological kids via my womb if possible, then, once they are a bit older we would like to foster (and perhaps foster-to-adopt if it was the right fit for us).
Public school - will house-shop according to school system quality.
Adoption is something we've chatted a little about. Right now, we know we want to try to get me pregnant. After we either succeed or fail at that, I'm sure the adoption discussion will be revisited.
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Because I work in public education, I feel really torn between my dedication to creating a school system that works for Every Child and the biased need to access the best education for my children. Now the plan is to go public, but probably charter. I'd also love to get my kids in to one of the public systems that are using Montessori methods. It really all depends where we are at I suppose. Angi and I both feel strongly that our kid's pre-school be dual-language immersion.
As for adopting, in Idaho it is not an option for us if we stay here. Just last week I heard the sad story of a local couple that fostered a brother and sister and took care of them since they were 6 and 8 years old. They spent thousands of dollars trying to adopt them for ten years. They were denied over and over. Finally, they both turned 18 and it couldn't be fought anymore. Though those children will always call them their moms. I'm open to adopting if the laws change and/or if I can't get pregnant. We are really hoping to foster once we have our own children.
we'll be doing public schooling. we're in a good district--we live in one city with not so good schools, but our house is actually zoned in a suburban school district that's one of the best in the area. it's kind of nice for us, we pay lower property taxes but get the better schools.
we both want to carry, and here in ohio we can't both adopt. we could adopt individually as a "single" person but not as a couple, so we won't be exploring that option unless that changes or we have serious problems conceiving.
we did go this morning for our second insem. here's hoping for a positive result. now we just wait.
Oh, good luck Morgan!
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Good luck! Fingers crossed!