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stopping the gossip
in 9 to 5
we are a predominantly female office and the gossip is getting OUT OF CONTROL.
Please give me tips to avoid being a participant of this.
TIA!
Re: stopping the gossip
When the gossip starts, say "I'm not comfortable discussing this...it smacks of gossip." and then go sit down and start working.
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This absolutely! I worked at an all female environment for 6 years and it was full of gossip to the point nothing was getting done. I'd just get up and leave to go work or do something and not get involved in the gossip. They will then talk about you but who cares? When I started not getting involved in the gossip, they told my boss that I am "withdrawn and not communicative" but again I didn't care to sit there and talk about x or y's husband or kid or whatever and had the boss brought it up to my attention I'd have given the reasons why i wasn't getting involved in the gossip. You can not stop them, just remove yourself from the situation and if it's really bad, start looking for another job.
Kick 'em in the shins?
Just kidding!!! Although that would be more fun, in my opinion...
I had to deal with that at my last job. I had gotten engaged and then suddenly everyone starting talking about me being pregnant. I had been with my now fiance for almost 2 years before we got engaged so I have no idea how that fire started. I then started hearing rumors about how my marriage would end in divorce.
For the most part, I ignored it when anyone started talking gossip or rumors. If I do not ignore it, I just state that I'm not into gossip (nicely...) and walk away or continue about my work. I've been called a *** for it, but that's water off a duck's back in my opinion.
IMO there is a difference between actual gossip and just chatting about your lives, like what your husband and kids are up to. Taking part in (brief!) discussions about what people are up to for the weekend, whose kid is in Girl Scouts, etc is important if you want to be seen as an involved member of the department. If you check out and go back to your desk as soon as people start talking about themselves, then yes you will end up being branded as distant and uncommunicative, and long-term that's not good for your career. I'm certainly not saying that you should stand there for 20 minutes and neglect your work - most people are able to keep a happy balance.
Now, pure gossip on the other hand is a totally different story. If the conversation veers catty I'd just say "well ladies, I've got to get back to work, talk again soon". Keep it upbeat but just slip away when the conversation gets squicky.
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