October 2008 Weddings
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Bridal shower
Should a bridesmaid who is not attending the shower be expected to pitch in for the shower?
*not me by the way but the MOH is asking me if she should include one of the girls who can't come in the price splitting.
Re: Bridal shower
Ditto Dani. I wouldn't expect her to pitch in. If she offers, that's great, but not necessary. I know one of my bridesmaids didn't help out with either of the showers (one was my family most BM's contributed to this, and then DH's cousin helped out with the one my MIL threw).
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I wouldnt anticipate on her helping with costs, but if she surprised me and offered that'd be nice, but not expected.
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This is my thinking too.
I would think it is okay for the MOH to ask all the girls if they would like to contribute towards the shower, though ultimately it is her responsibility if she is the one that initially offered.
If the BM doesn't contribute does it look in bad taste? In a lot of people's eyes sure, but who knows what her situation is so I try really hard not to judge. BM's have to spend a lot to be in weddings these days. If it were me and I had the means to contribute even if I wasn't going to be there I would.
I ended up responding that I could go either way, because I could. I see both sides.
I also noted that I THINK D might have planned on pitching in anyway but if not she could always say no and I wouldn't blame her. Then I emailed D asking her if she was planning on it (D and I just went through this in Feb for another friend), I've known her for 22 years so I felt okay asking her.
Thanks for the quick responses - the MOH was hounding me for an answer!