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Baby Shower Vent
So remember about this time last year when we were all complaining about our Wedding Showers and the drama that the in laws brought along with them. Well I am in that boat once again! This time rather than a combined shower I decided to tell the grandparents to do 2 separate showers. One for the in laws and one for my family. That way everyone gets to be happy. I was WRONG! My MIL told me the day that we told her I was pregnant that she is throwing the shower. Well this is my mom's first grandchild no way is she giving up the shower rights. So Fine split them. Then MIL was talking about a July shower and my mom was talking about August 21. She flat out said to MIL and SIL Aug 21. A few weeks ago SIL text messaged me is Aug 21 ok for the shower? NO we told you right off the bat that was my families. OK so is Aug 14 ok. Fine!
Then she continues to ask my mom all sorts of questions about what she is doing and then tells me that she is doing the exact same stuff basically. And they want to invite my friends to the in laws party. Well all my friends know my mom well and are already helping her so now I have to ask them to come to 2 parties. Jeez Louise. You know it would be one thing if they had similar showers is SIL just did what she wanted and my Mom did her thing. If they are the same then oh well, but at this point it seems like it is deliberate. It is like she wants to do what my mom is doing and do it better a week before. If any of you knew SIL you would say she is a B****, the more I get to know her the more fake she is. It's getting to be so stressful because she sticks me right in the middle of it all.
Just figure it out. Keep me out of it! That is what I want to say.
Also if she thinks that she is going to buy some fancy cake for my shower and not let me take the left overs home she has another thing coming - you don't take cake away from a pregnant girl lol (she did that on my birthday - bought me her favorite cake and then let me take a small piece home with me)
UGH! Ok vent over. Thanks for listening 
Re: Baby Shower Vent
oh that really stinks.... hope everything works out
this however made me laugh...and i 100% agree-Also if she thinks that she is going to buy some fancy cake for my shower and not let me take the left overs home she has another thing coming - you don't take cake away from a pregnant girl lol
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Sorry to hear they are stressing you out. We did 2 separate showers for the wedding because "no one wanted to drive that far" (IL's are in PA, my fam is in NJ)and that's what we did for the baby showers this time around. Thankfully I had DH tell MIL that she needs to stop stressing me out over details, so once I picked a date that worked with my crazy schedule, she left me out of it.
I hope everything works out for you, because it sounds like MIL and SIL are being sucky about this right now. *hugs*
This has gotten me all fired up because I can see the same thing happening to me!
IMO- having two seperate showers seems like a great idea! Even though there are some issues, having your mom and your MIL/SIL work together would have been worse!
I agree that you should have nothing to do with it. You are pregnant, that's enough. You can't be worried with all this BS. If I were you I would let my mom know how much I appreciated her throwing me a shower, but that I can't hear about the details and problems. She just needs to figure this one out on her own. You don't need any added stress in your life.
Also, and this is really devious but I would do it and my friends would be on board. Tell you friends to only come to the one your mom is throwing. Maybe have your one bestie come to your SIL's but have everyone else come up with "other" things they have to do. That way, your mom's HAS to win because all your girls will be there!