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Wedding Drama-Advice, Please.
Out of the blue (in March 2011) DH and I learn that one of his friends (who was a groomsman in our wedding) is engaged. Sort of a shocker since we didn't know he was back together with the woman he brought to our wedding in 2007 (apparently this is all recent). Anyhow, I'm excited....I love weddings and rumor has it this one will be in Traverse City (extra bonus) next Summer.
A week ago, out of the blue again....we receive an email wedding wire save the date. The wedding is July of this year.....under 50 days away......and in Traverse City. Formal invitation to follow shortly.....LOL.
Of course, you know all the really good TC hotels have a 2 night minimum. We can only go for one night (neither of us have any vacation time). Before I book, I email the bride and inquire about whether we can bring Sofia or not to the event (she would be 6 months at that point).....having not seen the formal invitation yet I really didn't know and before I paid for the room on hotels.com I needed the answer. Later that same day the groom calls to ask DH to be in the wedding (wonderful....note sarcasm) and also tells us we can bring our child (perfect!). I book the room and start to look for my dress plus their registry (which has yet to surface). I figured I probably wouldn't stay long with her at the event but was glad that I could at least make an appearance-especially since DH was in it.
Today....I get a response from the bride telling us we cannot bring our child but she will be happy to find a sitter in the TC area for us.
Would you be upset? We really don't have sitter options for this particular weekend. DH already agreed to be in the wedding and we have prepaid for our room. It is not an option for me to just leave my child in TC with a sitter who I have no prior experience. I know I am a freak about her but there is only a short list of people I trust to watch her......after waiting so long for a child I truly have my limits (right or wrong). Personally I am a little offended.........
Re: Wedding Drama-Advice, Please.
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I would have your H call the groom and ask what was going on. Just tell him that since he said you could bring DD you prepaid for your hotel and made plans, and that you would have made different plans had she not been allowed at the wedding.
I don't blame you for not wanting a random sitter that you don't know. That is not an acceptable solution, IMO.
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Ditto! And I completely agree with you I would never leave Morgan with someone I didn't know. Maybe once she is old enough to talk but never at 6 months! I would have your H talk to groom.
Agreed. It sounds like the bride and groom aren't on the same page.
Not that I need to say this to you but do not leave your baby with some random stranger in TC so you can attend the wedding of these two twat waffles. This marriage has catastrophe written all over it.
I'd probably be so offended I'd encourage DH to bow out of the wedding, decline to attend, keep the room reservation and go wine tasting and enjoy a mini trip to TC with Sofia!
I would have DH call the groom and find out specifics of the sitter, although they probably don't know. Is she having more kids watched with several adults watching them in a playroom? That I could be okay with. A stranger in my hotel room, not so much. I don't know what you'd be okay with.
If they put up a stink, I would ask DH to bow out and still go up and have a family weekend together.
I'd just bring her... then if the bride b*tches about it, tell that you the groom told your DH it was ok.
i would be pissed at the whole situation.
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Pretty much what everyone else posted. I'd be mad. It's also unreasonable for her to expect you to leave your 6 month old baby with a stranger, regardless of the credentials. The whole thing sounds like a mess.
I'd let your DH handle it with the Groom.
I agree with all the PP - there is NO WAY I'd leave Dayne with someone I don't know - therefore don't trust - just to attend a wedding. As others have said I'd call and tell bride that groom said you could bring the child and that is your plans. If she is honestly not welcomed at the wedding than you won't be attending and your DH will have to leave early because he doesn't want to leave you two at the hotel by yourself.
It sounds like this was a last minute scramble and they're both off doing their own things.