[CLICKY POLL] How much do we share?

hikingnclimbing · June 2011

A conversation with my DH made me curious how much we share with each other when it comes to starting a family.
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MrsSweetpeaMagee607 · June 2011

I told you guys first, but then had to tell my boss because I was supposed to be doing a training on lifting a wheel chair bound student and didn't think I should go through the training and then not be able to do any of the lifting! It ended up that two other people found out (the teacher in the room next to mine and another ed tech who had to go to the training in my place) and they told a few others, which was not how I wanted it to be... but it is what it is!

SBTibbs · June 2011

I chose the last option because I had posted a while before, but hadn't in a long time and was just lurking here and there, so I obviously didn't post when I found out I was pg.

We told our immedate family around 7 weeks, then everyone else after we heard the heartbeat around 12.

Now that we are thinking about TTC #2 (which I have obviously been talking about here!) I am wondering how long I would wait to tell people this time. Not that I don't love you all dearly, but I would feel kind of bad spilling the beans here before I told my parents or BFFs. We'll see how it goes!

mesa81 · June 2011

This is more than you were asking but---

I found out when DH was traveling (and he was debating staying an extra week). Things happened a bit sooner than we expected so I wanted to tell him in person and have him not freak out when he was a plane + long car ride away.... and since he was debating staying the week, I flipped out and confided in my BFF because I was so anxious to tell him.

We then waited until the first u/s to tell our immediate families (8 weeks) and a few close friends... we told extended family at 12 weeks and then told everyone else after that (nesties included). We kept it from our families until we saw the u/s and it had a heartbeat to protect ourselves (as well as them) as we've seen how some of the family members have coped with things in the past... so we waited until we felt we had concrete news to share.

mjellison81 · June 2011

I told you all first both times, mostly because I was so shocked and wasn't ready to tell anyone in the "real world" about it yet. It was a huge comfort being able to come on here and ask questions, get advice and support while still keeping our surprise(s) under my hat. After my m/c, I found an incredible amount of support and realized I wasn't alone in what I had gone through, which was a big comfort.

With this pregnancy, I told you all right away and we told our families pretty early (I think 8 wks or so), but that was under lock & key until we broke the news to the general public around the holidays when I was just about out of 1st trimester.

Tamzin418 · June 2011

I wasn't around here when I found out I was pregnant. We had to tell my dad pretty early on (~8-10 weeks) because he was here for a visit and I felt I needed to explain why my husband was going to a doctor's appointment with me. We called my mother-in-law the night before because we wanted her to be the first to know.

katsblaze · June 2011

I chose SS. I wasn't planning on telling anyone until after family knew. (around 12 weeks), however once I started having Severe MS, I had to break it to work so they knew why I was away from my desk a lot, or why I was grabbing my trash can and not heading home after. Then of course once we found out it was twins, we told everyone. I did tell my Nestie Aug 09 board first, however If I would have known you guys then, you would have been included in that for sure.

AMM101108 · June 2011

I told my parent's, DH's parents, SIL and Brother in law around 6 weeks when I found out. I had already scheduled a dinner party at our new house, and it seemed like a perfect time to share. Plus, I wasn't drinking any red wine, which immediately tipped off my SIL!

I told my friends around 8 weeks, and clued in everyone else around 12 weeks.

chayer227 · June 2011

We told friends we were trying (turned out we were already pg, but didn't know yet), but after we were pg, we decided not to tell until we knew we had a healthy, viable baby - my niece has a severe genetic disorder, so we wanted to know we were having a healthy baby before sharing the news.

We agreed to tell my BFF (has 3 kids), so I'd have someone to chat about concerns with early on - we told her after the doctor confirmed the BFP at about 5 weeks. We didn't tell family until 13 weeks.

Someone here figured out I was pg based on questions I was asking. Wink

When we opened the envelope that revealed that we were having a boy, we weren't supposed to tell anyone, but DH was so excited he called his siblings and mom. I then announced it here, and caved and told my family about 2 weeks after.

maeghan21 · June 2011

I think I shared it on the Nest as soon as I found out and told my mom sooner too since she was living with us and I was in a lot of pain and needed a couple emergency ultrasounds we told IL's after we heard the heartbeat and shared with the rest of the family and the world at 11 weeks. Think we'll probably do the same again. We liked having those first few weeks to ourselves

jgreg29 · June 2011

I'm a special star. Our families have a vague idea of when we'll be TTC. Some of my coworkers know our specific plans. We're really, really family friendly in my office and with the crazy baby booms we've had in the past and this year, word somehow gets out to those you are closest to. It's strange but it works. :-)

My guess is once I am pregnant, we'll tell family members and closest friends early on, since I'll have to tell all my health care practitioners and we'll feel like we're leaving them out. My boss will also find out early if the pregnancy is hard on my fibromyalgia and I need more accomodations at work. We'll be waiting to get through the first trimester for everyone else. :-)

carlyaw · June 2011

Besides DH my mom was the first to know both times. Then I told my sisters and a few close girlfriends. I told the nesties around 9-10 weeks both times I believe, it was after our first ultrasound, well Katie did know about Liam before that but I swore her to secrecy We told everyone else (including facebook) after we heard the heartbeats for the first time. so 11-12 weeks.

Mrs.ErikaMay · June 2011

I clicked special snowflake. I told you guys right away... but I also told my family first, right away. You guys were in the inner circle. Big Smile

I told the general population after the first trimester.

ETA: Oh yeah, I don't think I really shared our specifics about TTC in any detail. I probably anecdotally told folks when we were thinking about it, but as I recall, that's as specific as I got. The closer we got to "go time" the less I talked about it.

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