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MIL is irritating me again
So this has been happening since the last week of school (right before we went to Gettysburg) and has been driving me nuts ever since. MIL has been making sneaky comments about me having a baby....like now. And it is irritating the hell out of me.
There are a few ladies at work who are PG/have just had a baby and every time we talked to them or about them, MIL would say she can't wait until she gets another grandbaby and gives me the grin. And I know for a fact that she is talking about me b/c SIL had her tubes tied and BIL's g/f is nowhere near baby ready. Danny has already told her several times to back off with the baby talk. But she listens for a few months and then it starts up again.
We were at a picnic 2 weeks ago at Danny's grandparents house and his cousin had her 5 month old baby there. I was holding him and playing with him and MIL says, "Don't you just want one of your own??" I say, "No, not yet," and smile politely. She replies with telling me and BIL's g/f "well, if either of you happen to have a baby I could take care of it until you're ready." 
Really??? You'd want BIL's g/f to have an unplanned pregnancy just so you could take care of the baby? And really, lady, if you think I'd let my kid stay with you for any extended period of time after a comment like that, you've gotta be shitting me.
Then MIL had a cookout the week after (this past Sunday) and Danny was talking to her about using BIL's truck to get the stuff out of our basement.She usually only makes the BR comments when Danny isn't around (so she can lie to him about not saying them) but she slipped up this time. She said she could bring the truck over and SHE would help Danny clean out the basement; that way I "wouldn't have to lift anything so I don't tear up any lady parts." Not kidding. I shouldn't be lifting heavy objects so my ute is in great baby-making condition.
I'm just waiting for the next thing. I mean really, we even took the liberty to tell her that we were waiting until our 3 year anniversary before we even think about having kids. But seriously, what if we were trying now and couldn't get pregnant?? Way to rub it in. Now I don't even want to tell her if we do decide to TTC. Grrr....
Thanks for letting me vent.
Re: MIL is irritating me again
Stand up for something you believe in.
Ugh MILs can suck. I get the same thing when she says that our niece needs a cousin to play with. Why don't you just have a baby to play with then!!
To make matters worse, my pregnant co-worker will NOT shut up about me having a baby so we can be pregnant together. She has no shame when saying that she never wanted kids, is only going to marry her bf for the insurance and other lame crap. Then continues to bug me about my empty uterus which kills me because all I want is to be pregnant, and being stuck with her 6 hours everyday just makes it worse, but I know our time will come.
This is exactly how I feel too. Really, if you want another kid so bad, then get one yourself and leave my uterus out of it.
And I'm so sorry about your coworker. That would drive me to the breaking point.
And Mary--I feel ya. I really do. It's not even the pressure though because we have our plan and are sticking to it, it just irritates me that her comments are getting more and more inappropriate. I can handle the "oh, don't you just want one of your own," it's when she gets into the whole "don't life heavy things so you don't tear your uterus in half" that blows my mind. Really? Maybe you should come over, MIL and lift the three 50-pound bags of mulch and do my landscaping for me...y'know with my tender little uterus at risk and all.
How rude. I hated when people would ask us that shiit. How is it your business when or if we start having sex to make a human? Would you also like to know my favorite position and how easily your son can get me off? Oh, what's that? NO? Then STFU and mind your beeswax.
Maybe its time to start making her feel uncomfortable when she asks instead of being polite. Sounds to me like being nice isnt working. I'd probably make up some great TMI info and start talking to her about it the next time she asks.
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I know!! She just has the worst case of baby fever on the planet. That comment was also directed at me, not just the g/f, but still. I just don't get it. What part of making a baby did she miss in having her 3 kids that would make her think that g/f (who still has 4 more years of college) or I (have a life plan happening here) would just go through that 9 months and let her handle it until our lives are ready?? Um....no, I'll wait, thank you.
And Mac---I'm totally getting to that point now. With what happened last year at work (her calling Danny and lying to him about things I didn't say while on lunch), I've been sticking with the smile and politely decline further conversation just to deny her any ammunition, but since she slipped up and made the uterus comment in front of Danny, I may get away with a little well played snark.